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(27,630 posts) Fri Sep 13, 2013, 04:13 PM Sep 2013

To grown men who sexually harrass teenagers: [View all]

I got sexually harrassed a lot, for years and years. It was the worst when I was a teenager and in my 20s.
You want to know what it's like? IT'S FUCKING ANNOYING!!! And you can't really do much about it when it's drive by, passers-by on the street.

I have never been bullied, I have never been sexually assaulted, and that is probably because of this giant reserve of anger I have within myself, and I am NOT afraid. I have always DESPISED coward sexual harrassers who pick on the convenient targets.

Again, to those FUCKING COWARDLY CREEPS out there in cyberspace: YOU ARE GROSS!!! GO FUCK OFF!!!! I DESPISE ALL OF YOU DISGUSTING FUCKING ASSHOLES WHO SEXUALLY HARRASS TEENAGERS!

This anger is directed at a very small percentage of men who sexually harrass teenagers. I wish the "nice guys" would listen to me and not tell me I'm lying.

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To grown men who sexually harrass teenagers: [View all] Quantess Sep 2013 OP

I understand your anger and frustration... mike_c Sep 2013 #1

Regarding my latest hidden post. Quantess Sep 2013 #2

You were a juror on your own alerted post? How did that happen? Comrade Grumpy Sep 2013 #5

Nope. Someone alerted on Doctor_J's OP. Nye Bevan Sep 2013 #9

Thanks, you described it better than I did BuelahWitch Sep 2013 #13

ah-- thanks.... mike_c Sep 2013 #29

Not the least bit surprised to see such a sufrommich Sep 2013 #34

I was juror #4, I voted to hide the post. I thought it was creepy. hunter Sep 2013 #37

I had no idea we even had a Men's Group. KamaAina Sep 2013 #48

It is a similar crowd to the "Gungeon" intaglio Sep 2013 #53

I will say one thing for it KamaAina Sep 2013 #58

It's full of people who advocate for things like satanic human sacrifice, and cannibalism. Honest. Warren DeMontague Sep 2013 #88

And serve roasted baby on Mondays. NuclearDem Sep 2013 #91

It's the Group W Bench, is what it is. Warren DeMontague Sep 2013 #92

Only Mondays? KamaAina Sep 2013 #93

No, but there are plenty of rape apologists intaglio Sep 2013 #108

Please prove your allegation with links. Warren DeMontague Sep 2013 #109

The forum itself is evidence intaglio Sep 2013 #111

yeah Warren DeMontague Sep 2013 #112

Oh, you don't read critically? intaglio Sep 2013 #114

One rape is too many, I'm sure we agree there. Warren DeMontague Sep 2013 #115

That health insurance was unfairly expensive to men BainsBane Sep 2013 #161

Pffft....who cares about that???? ProudToBeBlueInRhody Sep 2013 #141

I like to keep them where they belong: on ignore. Squinch Sep 2013 #144

There is a Women's Rights & Issues group. polly7 Sep 2013 #66

i dunno. asking how young one can sexualize a girl seems like it pretty well is effecting the girls seabeyond Sep 2013 #67

Wtf are you talking about? nt. polly7 Sep 2013 #68

A creepy OP in the Men's Group which I believe has now been deleted... nomorenomore08 Sep 2013 #113

How was that a response to my question to the poster I asked it of? polly7 Sep 2013 #156

The original OP came off as creepy, even if the poster's intentions may have been relatively benign. nomorenomore08 Sep 2013 #157

Yeah, I get that. polly7 Sep 2013 #158

For the record, I tend to bounce pretty freely between the Men's Group and HoF. nomorenomore08 Sep 2013 #159

lol you're not babbling. polly7 Sep 2013 #160

best thing that ever happened to me BainsBane Sep 2013 #149

My nickname in middle school and high school (before I quit) was "queerbait." hunter Sep 2013 #152

sigh... ya know. seabeyond Sep 2013 #153

Sometimes you just have to do pintobean Sep 2013 #50

because its time people get their rear tail feathers out of that place Stargazer99 Sep 2013 #3

it is broadcast here because it is political Stargazer99 Sep 2013 #4

It isn't exactly political, except it COULD BE Quantess Sep 2013 #7

Yeah that is sad that they are doing that Harmony Blue Sep 2013 #8

I love your OP, and your hidden post, but I disagree on one thing: I think it's very political. Squinch Sep 2013 #38

A big plus 1000 for this. nt Nay Sep 2013 #154

self-delete (dupe) pnwmom Sep 2013 #12

Why the hell not broadcast it here? With all the men on this site, don't you think pnwmom Sep 2013 #16

thanks for answering.... mike_c Sep 2013 #27

yes SwampG8r Sep 2013 #101

I've noticed the same phenomenon of daughters pnwmom Sep 2013 #102

Oh, so right on. Now, I have had a lifetime of mostly boys and men. seabeyond Sep 2013 #103

Message auto-removed Name removed Sep 2013 #6

It was about an OP regarding finding young females sexually attractive BuelahWitch Sep 2013 #11

except to women Precisely Sep 2013 #15

Do you really need a list of all the ways men sexually harass girls on the streets? pnwmom Sep 2013 #18

I am an older man and I feel no man has the right to upaloopa Sep 2013 #55

People in our generation can help just by making our sons and grandsons and brothers aware. pnwmom Sep 2013 #56

no offense, but your "giant reserve of anger" is not likely the reason you were cali Sep 2013 #10

Calmly stated: what causes you to say these are "bullshit claims"? Quantess Sep 2013 #14

LOL. hardly. I got a lot of attention from men cali Sep 2013 #41

What it is you are complaining about, exactly? Quantess Sep 2013 #65

why so hostile? Precisely Sep 2013 #17

What bullshit claims? Are you suggesting that sexual harassment on the street isn't real pnwmom Sep 2013 #21

no, I'm suggesting that the poster's claim that she was never sexually assaulted cali Sep 2013 #42

I disagree laundry_queen Sep 2013 #54

yes, she is completely off base. while she is correct that tough women also get attacked and bettyellen Sep 2013 #131

you missed "probably." and the context Precisely Sep 2013 #85

You need to talk to someone about this anger I think. Not healthy. n-t Logical Sep 2013 #19

Getting in touch with her anger about this could very well be healthy. pnwmom Sep 2013 #30

Your comment lacks empathy. n-t Quantess Sep 2013 #33

She is talking to someone about the anger. It's very healthy. And it's pretty common. Squinch Sep 2013 #39

Agreed. Oddly, street harassment seems more of an East Coast than West Coast phenomenon. Warren DeMontague Sep 2013 #20

I grew up on the east coast. I've noticed there was less of it here in the west coast, pnwmom Sep 2013 #22

the West Coast is so much more segregated, so you are probably referring to bettyellen Sep 2013 #25

Actually, that observation has been made repeatedly Warren DeMontague Sep 2013 #26

women get harassed because they are perceived as lower status across the board, and it bettyellen Sep 2013 #31

That doesn't really have anything to do with what I was saying, but okay. Warren DeMontague Sep 2013 #32

I grew up in a middle to upper-middle class east coast town where the kids did walk. pnwmom Sep 2013 #35

I do think more women fight back these days. But it's often a matter of opportunity. bettyellen Sep 2013 #45

When a girl is 12, 13, 14 yrs old she is so inexperienced with standing up for herself seabeyond Sep 2013 #60

very true. I was disgusted a few years ago when a 35+ yr old man made a very suggestive remark to my bettyellen Sep 2013 #134

my well endowed 12 yr old niece was out to dinner with one of my friends and a friend of hers. seabeyond Sep 2013 #137

I hear you, and you are not lying, Q. Ghost Dog Sep 2013 #23

Some asshole exposed himself to my wife on the streets of DC a few years ago. Her response ... 11 Bravo Sep 2013 #24

I was tall for my age so it started for me when I was a preteen -- 12 or maybe even 11. pnwmom Sep 2013 #28

It started for me at 10 PasadenaTrudy Sep 2013 #36

And I'm sure you weren't the only one. Most girls now have at least started developing pnwmom Sep 2013 #47

Thank you... icarusxat Sep 2013 #76

I have great men in my life PasadenaTrudy Sep 2013 #94

You are not lying intaglio Sep 2013 #40

+1 Squinch Sep 2013 #44

^^^^^^ Precisely Sep 2013 #86

One other note: do you think any of those men who do harass girls have any idea how Squinch Sep 2013 #43

I bet they don't. We're supposed to appreciate the attention, no matter how young we are. n/t pnwmom Sep 2013 #46

yes, there is something wrong with us if we don't like it JI7 Sep 2013 #49

Blech. Just thinking about how that feels when you are confronted with one of those assholes Squinch Sep 2013 #73

they know Precisely Sep 2013 #87

agreed. that is the point and why a guy cant talk himself out of just what it is. they know. seabeyond Sep 2013 #90

I know what you are talking about: those guys who block the sidewalk, Squinch Sep 2013 #142

as men continually tell us, all us young women are biologically made up to go for the old fart with seabeyond Sep 2013 #147

I don't think they care. JoeyT Sep 2013 #107

wish I could rec your post. nt raccoon Sep 2013 #117

Exactly Precisely Sep 2013 #123

it mostly is around other men. it really is all about showing off to their peers. the girl/woman is seabeyond Sep 2013 #126

power Precisely Sep 2013 #127

always. dominance, control. nt seabeyond Sep 2013 #129

yep. I have caught a few guy friends acting out in disturbing ways and boy were they upset bettyellen Sep 2013 #143

Rec'd hotrod0808 Sep 2013 #51

Sorry you've had to endure some of that degrading crap. It can be quite scary. BlueJazz Sep 2013 #52

that was a fuckin ridiculous fuckin hide for you from inablers to allow the boys to play at will... seabeyond Sep 2013 #57

Because going into a group.... ProudToBeBlueInRhody Sep 2013 #78

Except, that's not what happened. pintobean Sep 2013 #80

Telling everyone who replied to the OP to "fuck off" is abusive.... ProudToBeBlueInRhody Sep 2013 #82

Her post was hidden pintobean Sep 2013 #84

Bullshit, and I have zero intention of self-deleting anything ProudToBeBlueInRhody Sep 2013 #138

she posted a jury result. try again. i have yet to see any poster get a post hidden for posting seabeyond Sep 2013 #81

Abusive jury comments, even when not made public are not tolerated here as far as I know ProudToBeBlueInRhody Sep 2013 #139

bullshit. seems who is being called out in a comment. nt seabeyond Sep 2013 #146

sexually creepy is good for business Precisely Sep 2013 #124

absolutely. i think that is why it is so hard for the men to address when they are in leadership. seabeyond Sep 2013 #128

it's equal opportunity exploitation these days. Precisely Sep 2013 #130

It started quite young for me also laundry_queen Sep 2013 #59

Harassment is rampant and it grinds people down. Stop it, folks: Bernardo de La Paz Sep 2013 #61

luv this. an absolute fav. and so point on. thank you. nt seabeyond Sep 2013 #63

This message was self-deleted by its author Cronus Protagonist Sep 2013 #62

lots of pictures. a little reading. but little words, so should be good to go. lots of pics. seabeyond Sep 2013 #64

This message was self-deleted by its author Cronus Protagonist Sep 2013 #96

Did you really just say that? Sheldon Cooper Sep 2013 #75

I lol'd LittleBlue Sep 2013 #83

I have no idea Cronus Protagonist Sep 2013 #97

Most excellent LittleBlue Sep 2013 #98

Dude's post was self deleted because he realized how turd-like it made him appear. Squinch Sep 2013 #145

Not appropriate. NuclearDem Sep 2013 #89

To grown men who sexually harrass teenagers: Rex Sep 2013 #69

I've never even witnessed this phenomenon, I don't think... devils chaplain Sep 2013 #70

They don't do it when a woman (or a girl) is with a man. Squinch Sep 2013 #74

Exactly, because a woman alone is "public property." A woman with a man raccoon Sep 2013 #118

Bingo. And a woman alone is "asking for it" by virtue of not having attached herself to a man. Squinch Sep 2013 #140

Cool vid makes the point: Bernardo de La Paz Sep 2013 #71

just get tired... another very good piece from you. thank you. nt seabeyond Sep 2013 #77

This message was self-deleted by its author Cronus Protagonist Sep 2013 #99

Here Bernardo de La Paz Sep 2013 #116

he does not give a shit. just jumped in to derail. sorry you though him sincere. nt seabeyond Sep 2013 #121

It's OK. He fighting a battle from another thread and dragged it in here. Bernardo de La Paz Sep 2013 #132

i see. thanks for the explanation. nt seabeyond Sep 2013 #135

Summary of the Bible Precisely Sep 2013 #136

Summary of the bible Bernardo de La Paz Sep 2013 #148

some people arely staircase Sep 2013 #72

Men really need to learn to keep it in their pants. NuclearDem Sep 2013 #79

How bout grown women? grahamhgreen Sep 2013 #95

How "very small" is that percentage? Recursion Sep 2013 #100

I explained in another post pnwmom Sep 2013 #104

I don't think it is so small BainsBane Sep 2013 #150

It's disgusting. ForgoTheConsequence Sep 2013 #105

I learned "nice guy" at my parents' knees. longship Sep 2013 #106

Nature had determined that I would Le Taz Hot Sep 2013 #110

A major, major benefit of being old. Sure I miss the strength and resilience I used to have eridani Sep 2013 #119

Both these replies Precisely Sep 2013 #125

Gotta agree there. The lack of harassment after the age of about 40 was SO SO wonderful. A major Nay Sep 2013 #155

A-FUCKING-MEN!!! Lunacee_2013 Sep 2013 #120

K&R nt MrScorpio Sep 2013 #122

Hopefully LWolf Sep 2013 #133

Quantess. Just wanted to let you know BainsBane Sep 2013 #151