To grown men who sexually harrass teenagers:

[laundry_queen]

59. It started quite young for me also

except in the end I WAS date raped and assaulted, likely because I was shy and submissive and had been bullied by my parents my whole life, and I didn't know how to stand up for myself or even how to disobey a direct command by someone.

I was around 11 when the harassment first started with being grabbed and kissed by some older teens at a party across the street (I was playing in the park adjacent to the house). At 12 my 'boyfriend's' (in quotes because we liked each other but weren't serious) dad was always hugging me. At 13 the father I was babysitting for was hitting on me non stop, telling me I had a great body. At 14, my manager at the restaurant I worked at grabbed my ass and boobs on a regular basis. Kept asking me when I was going to marry him. When I was 16, my brother's 45 year old married hockey coach groped me and called me hot.

This doesn't even include the stupid whistles, obscene gestures, propositions from random men on the street, or from the groping and harassment from boys my age.

The 'nice guys' you refer to remind me of my parents. They said I was always 'exaggerating' and was told those guys 'didn't mean anything by doing that' and that I was being 'too sensitive'. The message I got: you deserve what is happening to you. The other message I got was that I should enjoy the attention because I was lucky to get it.
It's all bullshit.