What triggered my angst is my perspective as the "other" in America. I have no desire to be a white woman - I'm the bi-racial persons that soaks up the sun. 
. Give me the beach and the ocean any day! I do wish we had a larger fish bowl of observation. IE in America the "other" has many assessments about her, her life, and criticism of the choices made in her system of circumstances - but the dominant 'Caucasian/White culture/race is actually in a fish bowl of observation and gets uncomfortable when the other points out truths about the dominant culture.
So from an American - black American perspective - I get twitchy when blanket statements are made about the internalization of privilege. I think very little is understood about our internal and emotional experience and what might motivate us to take certain actions. IE we don't wish to be white - we wish to be heard and valued without explanation or apologies for our expression of our experience.
Now man years ago I dated a man from UAE (Arab) who treated me very kindly and was fascinated with my appearance. But he was much too old for me and that "killed" it. I did not realize that type of race based experience existed from the ruling/dominant culture of UAE as my experience was one of tolerance and acceptance from his friends and family.
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