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In reply to the discussion: Study: Everyone hates environmentalists and feminists [View all]davidn3600
(6,342 posts)And who is the enemy? Who's fighting the "war on women?" Men? Are men the enemy? Or how about the 45% of women who voted for Mitt Romney last year? Or the 80% of Americans who refuse to refer to themselves as a "feminist?"
The problem feminism has is it's not considered an equal rights movement anymore. Part of the reason for that is the right-wing has vilified it. But it's also because feminism has failed to mold itself to the modern era. Feminism needs to start taking a more egalitarian approach to gender equality. Today, we are not dealing with very many massive issues that are easy to get behind and change (like the right for women to vote). Now we are dealing with complex social issues that deal with gender roles and stereotypes. These are difficult things to change. And you can only make progress on these things when you approach them from both sides of the coin. If you are going to relax gender roles for women, then you need to relax gender roles for men too. The goal of this type of approach is to slowly bring things that are out of balance, into balance. That includes the weakening of advantages that both men and women have through different areas of society.
This isn't about competition. This is about telling men that it's OK if the wife makes just as much money, or is even the breadwinner. AND...it's also about telling women that it's OK for them to take that role. Because what's blocking women in the workforce is the fact that women are still expected to put their careers on hold for their family. And men are still expected to provide and bring home the bacon. Men, even today, have pressure to make more money than their wife. When they don't, they may start to feel inadequate. They may be get made fun of by their peers. And the wife's family may even look down on him. And that right there is an area feminism needs to start working on....not just pushing the women.