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yurbud

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69. I would not say I disowned her. that's playing her game.

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Wed Oct 2, 2013, 08:21 PM

Oct 2013

Instead, i would say something like, "I would be uncomfortable visiting your home where my grandson isn't welcome. I would be glad to have you visit me if Chad doesn't mind and you can behave like an adult and not like the cruel, ignorant child this action makes you look like.

I am your father and I will always love you, but I am profoundly disappointed and embarrassed by this behavior and feel like I failed you a father because I didn't see this moral vacuum in your soul and try to help you fix it before you could do harm to others, including your own child.

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Grandfather Writes Letter To His Daughter After She Kicks Out His Gay Grandson [View all] Are_grits_groceries Oct 2013 OP

Love this! Thank you for posting, LiberalLoner Oct 2013 #1

The only problem is that the tone of his letter is so accusing that it doesn't give her room to SharonAnn Oct 2013 #32

I agree with you. murielm99 Oct 2013 #45

We don't know how brutal the daughter was in kicking out her son. Sounds like it was brutal. Bernardo de La Paz Oct 2013 #48

Exactly derby378 Oct 2013 #50

Couldn't agree with you more the_chinuk Oct 2013 #80

I agree. He could have accomplished more with a different tone. pnwmom Oct 2013 #60

But then it wouldn't have been "out there" for the world to see. Tigress DEM Oct 2013 #89

I agree. I've thought that every time I've seen posts on DU about someone having a run in cui bono Oct 2013 #64

Sometimes trying to bring them around is the right approach Nanjing to Seoul Oct 2013 #71

Or maybe the daughter learned her bullying technique from her dad pnwmom Oct 2013 #91

I disagree. Grandpa was right. the_sly_pig Oct 2013 #75

KNR joeybee12 Oct 2013 #2

Good for gramps The Second Stone Oct 2013 #3

Nothing to be happy about jehop61 Oct 2013 #4

I'm quite happy with this, actually. sir pball Oct 2013 #10

My hope is different. AtheistCrusader Oct 2013 #12

The door is open and I do hope she takes it sir pball Oct 2013 #15

She may have been led astray by some religious bullshit. AtheistCrusader Oct 2013 #17

+1 beerandjesus Oct 2013 #18

A man who calls his daughter "heartless B-word" freedom fighter jh Oct 2013 #86

Sometimes you gotta cut out the cancer OldRedneck Oct 2013 #13

Besides.... AlbertCat Oct 2013 #22

+1! n/t backscatter712 Oct 2013 #34

The only one torn away is the heartless piece of breeding stock they used to call mom, and she made jtuck004 Oct 2013 #23

The kid is accepted and loved by his gramps. Iggo Oct 2013 #25

Awesome, Gramps leftynyc Oct 2013 #5

Wow! City Lights Oct 2013 #6

Dude tore her a new one. malthaussen Oct 2013 #7

Well said Dad! nt Demo_Chris Oct 2013 #8

K&R nt Zorra Oct 2013 #9

As a grandfather I can say... awoke_in_2003 Oct 2013 #11

Exactly..our grandson's mother walked out on him when he was 1 years old... Tikki Oct 2013 #14

i am a grandfather also. unionthug777 Oct 2013 #58

Yep... awoke_in_2003 Oct 2013 #77

As a parent abelenkpe Oct 2013 #16

why anyone would choose an ideology, religion or another person over their own child. AlbertCat Oct 2013 #24

Sounds like something my Grandpa would say.... AnneD Oct 2013 #19

My Advice to her? BillyRibs Oct 2013 #20

Religion-inspired hatred destroys everything it touches. HughBeaumont Oct 2013 #21

Hitchens got it right. backscatter712 Oct 2013 #35

Wow! My kind of senior :). n/t arthritisR_US Oct 2013 #26

Boom, is right! Sissyk Oct 2013 #27

Very beautiful letter. Good for Grandpa. I hope she takes his words to heart. sabrina 1 Oct 2013 #28

+10000 LeftNeckChick Oct 2013 #29

Wonderful letter dickthegrouch Oct 2013 #30

Are_grits_groceries Diclotican Oct 2013 #31

K&R&posted to FB nt stevenleser Oct 2013 #33

Odds that this is fake? oberliner Oct 2013 #36

I was just wondering how this got posted on the intertubes. progressoid Oct 2013 #38

agree dembotoz Oct 2013 #41

Why don't you 3 start a forum Are_grits_groceries Oct 2013 #42

I hope this is fake LittleBlue Oct 2013 #68

Love the comments in the linked article, especially those saying she did the right thing TrogL Oct 2013 #37

They don't need to pay anyone. Mariana Oct 2013 #88

Provisional K&R DeSwiss Oct 2013 #39

I like your ending better. n/t pnwmom Oct 2013 #61

Wonderful supportive grandpops! nt AtomicKitten Oct 2013 #40

Ouch! That's gonna leave a mark Warpy Oct 2013 #43

fabulous grantcart Oct 2013 #44

That's lovely malaise Oct 2013 #46

Has this been determined to be legitimate? nm rhett o rick Oct 2013 #47

Agree, this could be manufactured BUT Swede Atlanta Oct 2013 #52

It's a no-brainer, the sister who took him in is following Jesus's teachings. roamer65 Oct 2013 #56

HOW, HOW???can someone NOT love their kids? DiverDave Oct 2013 #49

Unfortunately, children are abused and neglected every day derby378 Oct 2013 #51

Yeah, I know, but hearts are fragile DiverDave Oct 2013 #73

it would be better if he didnt disown her, but... he did leave the door open, seabeyond Oct 2013 #53

Good corrective action by her Dad. roamer65 Oct 2013 #54

Great letter! K&R B Calm Oct 2013 #55

Awesome letter! LostOne4Ever Oct 2013 #57

WOW JimVukovich Oct 2013 #59

This reminds me of the SHARON UNDERWOOD letter Martin Eden Oct 2013 #62

Wow The Second Stone Oct 2013 #70

Never saw this letter before. bigwillq Oct 2013 #76

Please share it. Martin Eden Oct 2013 #78

She speaks for many mothers of children who've seen their kids abused by the self-righteous. freshwest Oct 2013 #92

Could someone help me out? I can't read this word... KansDem Oct 2013 #63

I think it's supposed to say "disowning". ladyVet Oct 2013 #66

Ah! yes...makes sense, now. Thanks! KansDem Oct 2013 #67

Kick & highly recommended. William769 Oct 2013 #65

I would not say I disowned her. that's playing her game. yurbud Oct 2013 #69

+1000 Liberal_in_LA Oct 2013 #72

K&R Jamastiene Oct 2013 #74

When I was volunteering with an agency that worked with street kids in Portland, Lydia Leftcoast Oct 2013 #79

More people need to know about the gay angle on those stats. Thanks for writing. nt Bernardo de La Paz Oct 2013 #85

wonderful wonderful wonderful Gpa!!! Divine Discontent Oct 2013 #81

and I just LOVE those 2 gifs you have at the bottom! LOLLLLz Divine Discontent Oct 2013 #82

My daughters would have cut me off if I had acted like this woman did to her son DFW Oct 2013 #83

You can see where she gets it from. freedom fighter jh Oct 2013 #84

I am not a parent TNNurse Oct 2013 #87

My husband's niece is like this HockeyMom Oct 2013 #90