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Bernardo de La Paz

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64. Accept. RWs talk big about their "charity" and sometimes occasionally actually are charitable.

Sat Oct 12, 2013, 12:25 PM

Oct 2013

His kindness could be "the exception that proves the rule".

Every generous act requires a receiver. You can play that role this time.

People are more than the sum of their outward appearance or overt behavior. People have hidden depths that sometimes are reservoirs of light.

I'm hoping that this person-to-person kindness might be a bridge so that you two can talk more frankly and openly about things like politics. For example, next time he "refers to that N in the WH", it might be an opening to say, nonchalantly, "You know, I'm having a hard time reconciling your obvious kindness with such nasty and violent sentiments. What gives?" It will take some thickness of skin to endure his views as he opens up a bit, but you might be surprised if his surface is all rough and tough "I got my stack Jack, hands off" while having a caring interior. Racism is ultimately an inner wound and usually an imagined wound. You might be able to help him heal a bit and get to a better place. But, as always, there is no obligation for you to do so or to incur any unpleasantness you don't want.

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My far RW, "disabled" Vet, racist neighbor just did me an incredible favor--not sure how to [View all] hlthe2b Oct 2013 OP

Write a thank you note and bake him a cake. Sedona Oct 2013 #1

+1 Aerows Oct 2013 #3

+ another one. Might soften his pov too. nolabear Oct 2013 #6

Oh, I'd already bought him a dinner for two gift card... hlthe2b Oct 2013 #16

Yes! You must reward the nice guy! The cake is for the nice guy. DonRedwood Oct 2013 #22

Words to live by Don. Rebellious Republican Oct 2013 #36

Indeed. nt arely staircase Oct 2013 #45

Feed the Good Wolf! Whisp Oct 2013 #32

thanks for sharing that /nt demwing Oct 2013 #37

that's very nice.... Thanks for sharing, Whisp hlthe2b Oct 2013 #51

Nice! daleanime Oct 2013 #69

I starved them both, sold the pelts, and bought bourbon. n/t Gore1FL Oct 2013 #76

Great advice. Thanks for posting. snagglepuss Oct 2013 #81

Message auto-removed Name removed Oct 2013 #92

Bake him a cake, and then from now on when he spouts racist claptrap, kestrel91316 Oct 2013 #61

Yeah.. that's what I'm hoping... hlthe2b Oct 2013 #95

Yes, here's a good one: klook Oct 2013 #75

LOL hlthe2b Oct 2013 #96

a big cake iamthebandfanman Oct 2013 #78

Just say thank you. NuclearDem Oct 2013 #2

Ok. So wha'd he go out of his way and do for you? lonestarnot Oct 2013 #4

Karma - you have done the right thing for years. Now something good has come out of it. There is patricia92243 Oct 2013 #5

Thank him properly--a card and a bottle of something good--American-made bourbon msanthrope Oct 2013 #7

Tell him pscot Oct 2013 #8

I'm glad you got some needed assistance enlightenment Oct 2013 #9

Outstanding post. Ranchemp. Oct 2013 #10

Stop it. I said nothing of the kind, but was referring to HIS POV. Post 17, please hlthe2b Oct 2013 #31

I did read your post 17. Ranchemp. Oct 2013 #34

Whoah... I used the terms HE USES... I don't believe that veterans are "living off the teat" hlthe2b Oct 2013 #17

Don't worry...it was clear. DonRedwood Oct 2013 #28

Obvioiusly not for those Duers attacking me, but thanks, DonRedwood hlthe2b Oct 2013 #29

Well, in defense of those who responded enlightenment Oct 2013 #30

I edited the OP... See if that will not make it abundantly clear to you (as the unedited hlthe2b Oct 2013 #33

I saw that. enlightenment Oct 2013 #42

You are being damned rude. I was misunderstood by those jumping to attack a fellow DUer, rather hlthe2b Oct 2013 #43

I'm being rude? enlightenment Oct 2013 #65

ok, hlthe2b Oct 2013 #67

Thanks, enlightenment Oct 2013 #73

Ignore the trolls. You did nor said anything wrong. kestrel91316 Oct 2013 #71

Great OP. Thank you. IrishAyes Oct 2013 #39

Very well stated. Rebellious Republican Oct 2013 #23

For gawd's sakes, plese read post 17. this is HIS pov, not MINE hlthe2b Oct 2013 #26

Taking offence when none was intended has become predictable but tiresome. It's perfectly clear snagglepuss Oct 2013 #82

thanks, sp hlthe2b Oct 2013 #90

I think the OP covered this pretty well.. please read it again. mountain grammy Oct 2013 #52

I posted before the OP's edit enlightenment Oct 2013 #55

Ok, I see your point mountain grammy Oct 2013 #58

Thank you. nt enlightenment Oct 2013 #60

those are the neighbor's words noiretextatique Oct 2013 #97

An earned retirement after 20 years of military service is "living off the teat?' Decaffeinated Oct 2013 #11

Please read my post 17 and reconsider your total misconstruing what I was saying hlthe2b Oct 2013 #18

What do you mean he interceded? Baitball Blogger Oct 2013 #12

A retired Vet is living off the teat? Seriously? And are you his doctor that you know about Bluenorthwest Oct 2013 #13

please read my post 17... you too could stand to give a fellow DUer benefit of the doubt. hlthe2b Oct 2013 #19

be nice to him. there is some good in everyone except genuine sociopaths nt arely staircase Oct 2013 #14

Living off the teat?? fitman Oct 2013 #15

Post 17, please. For gawd's sakes hlthe2b Oct 2013 #20

Save yourself by editing the OP. Gormy Cuss Oct 2013 #27

I did some time ago... hlthe2b Oct 2013 #35

Anyone with a 3-rd grade level reading comprehension should have no trouble understanding IrishAyes Oct 2013 #44

Thank you, IrishAyes... Much appreciated hlthe2b Oct 2013 #47

Too many people like to jump on their high horse. And they can be very selective who they attack. IrishAyes Oct 2013 #63

The quotes around "disabled." People are sensitive b/c there have been attacks anneboleyn Oct 2013 #99

Quotes are quite appropriate here because while he himself admits receiving disability payments, he hlthe2b Oct 2013 #101

I agree about the shoot first, ask questions later mentality under DU3. Gormy Cuss Oct 2013 #83

You are getting angry at post #15... awoke_in_2003 Oct 2013 #80

Thank you sarge43 Oct 2013 #46

For the love of...!!! it is NOT me espousing this, but the neighbor... hlthe2b Oct 2013 #89

After many discussions about things just like this, we came to the conclusion that world wide wally Oct 2013 #21

People are complex. I'm sure there's a decent, kind-hearted guy in there, just as Marr Oct 2013 #24

People are complicated. Including a lot of Teabaggers. Jackpine Radical Oct 2013 #25

How about being gracious and saying thank you and getting over it? nt Dreamer Tatum Oct 2013 #38

Really... That's what you take from this? hlthe2b Oct 2013 #49

I think people already know that. Dreamer Tatum Oct 2013 #70

Are you ever NOT a complete ass?? kestrel91316 Oct 2013 #72

Rarely. nt Dreamer Tatum Oct 2013 #77

Here, is this a better place to post my reply? Rebellious Republican Oct 2013 #40

I need for you to actually take a breath and read. I am NOT denouncing his benefits, disability, hlthe2b Oct 2013 #41

All folks have good in them nadinbrzezinski Oct 2013 #48

Plenty of RWers I know are fine people in person. The problem kicks in... JHB Oct 2013 #50

Well said! GreenPartyVoter Oct 2013 #53

+1 n/t lumberjack_jeff Oct 2013 #56

That's why it pains me to hear people throw others out of their lives over politics. dkf Oct 2013 #54

Yes... this is really the point of posting this anecdote. hlthe2b Oct 2013 #57

yea i heard hilter (sry for the reference) loved puppies and satan can quote scripture doesthat leftyohiolib Oct 2013 #59

+1 n/t IL Lib Oct 2013 #94

Don't be "conflicted". Contrary1 Oct 2013 #62

Accept. RWs talk big about their "charity" and sometimes occasionally actually are charitable. Bernardo de La Paz Oct 2013 #64

you know what they say mzteris Oct 2013 #66

I read the edited post first so didn't understand several posts. mountain grammy Oct 2013 #68

My manager reminds me of him TxDemChem Oct 2013 #74

Many of the RW politicians and pundits we rail about here are, in person, some of the nicest stevenleser Oct 2013 #79

cognitive dissonance--- yes, that exactly... hlthe2b Oct 2013 #88

Question ideology, promote humanity. nt rrneck Oct 2013 #84

Write a thank you note - as far 840high Oct 2013 #85

Moral ambiguity -- not origianl sin -- is the true state of mankind Jack Rabbit Oct 2013 #86

DU is "black and white" for the most part Grateful for Hope Oct 2013 #87

Having been through a few natural disasters... SomethingFishy Oct 2013 #91

Hardly anyone is black or white, just shades of gray, and... TreasonousBastard Oct 2013 #93

Sorry you had to deal with that mess in the middle of the thread... ScreamingMeemie Oct 2013 #98

... hlthe2b Oct 2013 #100

Soemtimes people can be just plain wrong, but still good bhikkhu Oct 2013 #102

I try to find common ground with people irl, pitbullgirl1965 Oct 2013 #103