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37. As the previous poster said, kids are just happy to play

Tue Oct 22, 2013, 10:12 AM

Oct 2013

There's probably more "emotional distress" from losing a close game than this.

The game is like the real world in many ways. Kids have to learn how to deal with it. Too many parents are worried about a sterile "everybody wins" environment. That's not what life is really like. I'm sure that some people would like their kids to walk around with helmets all day doing everything they can ensuring the child doesn't experience even a moment of adversity. This harms the kids more than getting blown out in a football game.

If you're around youth sports you know that the kids don't like it when the winning team stops playing. They feel patronized.

Most of the time the kids have a better understanding for the game than the adults.

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Parent Files Bullying Complaint After Son's Team Loses 91-0 [View all] The Straight Story Oct 2013 OP

Was that a football or a basketball game? nt Jamaal510 Oct 2013 #1

Considering the time of year, it would have to be football. kentauros Oct 2013 #2

91-0???? Does the mercy rule apply to high school football? Initech Oct 2013 #3

It could have been worse. ManiacJoe Oct 2013 #4

I have to wonder if they played worse once the other team started playing easy. joshcryer Oct 2013 #9

^^^ Watch this video ohtransplant Oct 2013 #77

Hopefully not... Decaffeinated Oct 2013 #12

Depends on the state Renew Deal Oct 2013 #28

The mercy (game end) rule in TX only applies to 6-man football. ScreamingMeemie Oct 2013 #83

91-0 is no longer a competition. It's no longer fun. It's no longer appropriate to continue. Gravitycollapse Oct 2013 #5

It's only a game AgingAmerican Oct 2013 #6

Are you suggesting children aren't subject to emotional distress? Gravitycollapse Oct 2013 #8

I'm suggesting it's only a game AgingAmerican Oct 2013 #10

No, kids are subject to the same kind of emotionally instability as adults. Gravitycollapse Oct 2013 #11

Doubtful losing a football game AgingAmerican Oct 2013 #14

really?losing a football game is a recipe backwoodsbob Oct 2013 #15

If you are a parent using your kid as a proxy, it apparently can be. RC Oct 2013 #26

+1 n/t Adsos Letter Oct 2013 #53

Have you ever played in high shool or junior high sports? just curious. nt Javaman Oct 2013 #25

I have backwoodsbob Nov 2013 #95

As the previous poster said, kids are just happy to play Renew Deal Oct 2013 #37

You know what's a recipe for disaster? NickB79 Oct 2013 #94

Fine. Its a game. Put in the JV and give them some experience and fun NoOneMan Oct 2013 #51

The emotional distress of losing is not necessarily bad... Decaffeinated Oct 2013 #16

I know, they shouldn't ever endure the emotions of losing something big.. snooper2 Oct 2013 #42

Did you forget the sarcasm thingy? renie408 Oct 2013 #70

I was on a basketball team as a jr. high-schooler that lost by 63 points klook Oct 2013 #79

Getting beat by 90 points is part of the game Renew Deal Oct 2013 #29

I agree. When a team is down by more that 40 points, the game should be stopped. bluestate10 Oct 2013 #30

Western Hill lost its first three games onenote Oct 2013 #57

It is so much better to tell them that they are losing so bad they should just quit playing. n/t whopis01 Oct 2013 #93

Put and end to it when? brooklynite Oct 2013 #43

Lol, I'd be far more offended if someone decided for me and my team that the game HAS to end RedCappedBandit Oct 2013 #50

What are the losing kids going to do out in the business world? fitman Oct 2013 #52

Hopefully the losing team will be motivated to train and try harder LittleBlue Oct 2013 #7

I'm not a fan of 91-0, though I didn't see the game, hughee99 Oct 2013 #13

I agree with you, the complaint is on its face ridiculous davidpdx Oct 2013 #23

With a record like that, my question is how such a disparity in the same league could exist. Fla Dem Oct 2013 #47

They should be bumped up to the next larger league davidpdx Oct 2013 #68

Sounds like Aledo should be in a different league treestar Oct 2013 #49

Yep, see #68 davidpdx Oct 2013 #69

Anti-bullying is about to jump the shark jmowreader Oct 2013 #17

Texas high school divisions are based on school size. ScreamingMeemie Oct 2013 #18

it's also big here in tx to send your kid to the hs elehhhhna Oct 2013 #36

My HS in Florida used to dominate their opponants... HooptieWagon Oct 2013 #55

Your post is bullying me. Please delete it. Puzzledtraveller Oct 2013 #41

LOL malaise Oct 2013 #19

I think that the parent is making HappyMe Oct 2013 #20

Don't see an issue here Fla_Democrat Oct 2013 #21

100% 4Q2u2 Oct 2013 #81

I think reporting the complaint is bullying. Nine Oct 2013 #22

Really depends on how this is presented to the kids stevenleser Oct 2013 #24

We have a lot of youth soccer in my state. Jenoch Oct 2013 #58

I'm sure the kids on the Western Hills team knew what they were up against The2ndWheel Oct 2013 #27

BAD sportsmanship by the winning coach Marrah_G Oct 2013 #31

How? The2ndWheel Oct 2013 #33

I spend a great deal of time around HS football Marrah_G Oct 2013 #34

Like I said, from what we know... The2ndWheel Oct 2013 #38

Then the league should probably be re-evaluated Marrah_G Oct 2013 #39

Apparently the divisions are based on school size The2ndWheel Oct 2013 #45

I agree with this opinion - TBF Oct 2013 #40

You know this, how? Jenoch Oct 2013 #59

By the descriptions provided dear correspondent - TBF Oct 2013 #62

I read the story in the link provided by the OP. Jenoch Oct 2013 #63

I have my opinion, TBF Oct 2013 #64

Wait a minute... Jenoch Oct 2013 #65

In Texas - TBF Oct 2013 #71

Then the losing coach should have Jenoch Oct 2013 #74

Like I said - TBF Oct 2013 #80

Just to clear up, and I'm not taking a side here, the mercy rule in TX is not as you stated. ScreamingMeemie Oct 2013 #82

This is what I found on the internet from the UIL - TBF Oct 2013 #84

It's listed as a forfeit. ScreamingMeemie Oct 2013 #87

Thanks - TBF Oct 2013 #88

No problem ScreamingMeemie Oct 2013 #89

If you think of this exchange of opinions Jenoch Oct 2013 #92

What more should the winning team have done? onenote Oct 2013 #44

I think the woman who filed the complaint yesphan Oct 2013 #32

^^^ This. Yes. "Bullying" is a word used by defendants and school administrators KurtNYC Oct 2013 #35

The complaint is ridiculous. avebury Oct 2013 #46

It's not a football issue.... Decaffeinated Oct 2013 #48

I suspect this was a joke... Whiskeytide Oct 2013 #67

I am unconvinced... Decaffeinated Oct 2013 #72

I went to Howards Grove high school... Archae Oct 2013 #54

Government Endorsed Bullying dsteve01 Oct 2013 #56

They could have lost 222 - 0... Archae Oct 2013 #60

My nephew's small college football team Jenoch Oct 2013 #61

It was a game and they played a much better team. The parent should take back the complaint and hrmjustin Oct 2013 #66

humiliating defeat for Those poor kids Liberal_in_LA Oct 2013 #73

It's not a team's responsibility to make sure their opponents are prepared for the big game. backscatter712 Oct 2013 #75

The athletic motto I was raised with was "Modest in victory; Gracious in Defeat" HereSince1628 Oct 2013 #76

Absurd. nt geek tragedy Oct 2013 #78

It was a game, period.... Swede Atlanta Oct 2013 #85

Texas HS football is played by school size. ScreamingMeemie Oct 2013 #90

I'll ask again - why are private bullying reports being publicized? Nine Oct 2013 #86

Damn! She would fit right in at DU!! madinmaryland Oct 2013 #91