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joeglow3

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35. Goes both ways

Fri Oct 25, 2013, 01:38 PM

Oct 2013

I had a male friend raped by a woman in college when he got drunk and passed out. To make matters worse, she lived on our dorm room floor and was pregnant a month or so later. He faced the very real possibility of being raped, getting a woman pregnant, having no say in her keeping the kid (which she did) and owing child support for the next 18 years.

Thank God it was not his kid.

Fact is, the advice goes to BOTH genders.

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Dear DU Woman--stop throwing back shots of Rum and you won't get raped.... [View all] trumad Oct 2013 OP

. trumad Oct 2013 #1

I've been a feminist for 40+ years now Le Taz Hot Oct 2013 #2

Well said. nt LisaLynne Oct 2013 #3

You are, of course, 100% correct. cleanhippie Oct 2013 #4

And her point was only addressed to women Gormy Cuss Oct 2013 #25

You are also correct. cleanhippie Oct 2013 #41

If that was indeed the point, one wonders why it was addressed to females only... LanternWaste Oct 2013 #37

Agreed. cleanhippie Oct 2013 #42

And I should have the right to leave my car unlocked with the keys it Freddie Stubbs Oct 2013 #5

What a terribly sad commentary on the general state of the male sex your post is. Zorra Oct 2013 #9

Nice twist of words DragonBorn Oct 2013 #12

every dad should give his daughter similar advice, comfort her if she is a victim, and bury the perp yurbud Oct 2013 #14

No. It implies that if a woman gets drunk it greatly increases the possibility that she'll be raped Zorra Oct 2013 #18

Getting drunk DOES increase the possibility scheming daemons Oct 2013 #29

Please see post #28. nt Zorra Oct 2013 #33

I did.... and the difference between you and me is that I have a college-aged daughter scheming daemons Oct 2013 #40

Obviously, the major relevant difference between you and me in assessing this subject is that Zorra Oct 2013 #48

congrats on surviving risky behavior unscathed scheming daemons Oct 2013 #49

You can drive home wearing a seatbelt, and, goddess forbid, get in a head on Zorra Oct 2013 #55

make sure to also mercuryblues Oct 2013 #31

maintaining situational awareness is always good advice scheming daemons Oct 2013 #51

The backlash mercuryblues Oct 2013 #59

Just because you can fuck the drunk girl doesn't mean it's wise lapislzi Oct 2013 #36

who said otherwise? scheming daemons Oct 2013 #50

Goes both ways joeglow3 Oct 2013 #35

But the person who steals your car Blue_Tires Oct 2013 #20

Thank you! Sheldon Cooper Oct 2013 #27

You do. And if someone steals it, they're considered a criminal JHB Oct 2013 #24

This idea expands to many more areas PowerToThePeople Oct 2013 #7

As long as PasadenaTrudy Oct 2013 #8

That's not good enough. Le Taz Hot Oct 2013 #10

I know PasadenaTrudy Oct 2013 #16

In other words, men cannot help themselves? KitSileya Oct 2013 #38

That's it get the red out Oct 2013 #53

Thank you. Warpy Oct 2013 #56

The world is filled with predators Nuclear Unicorn Oct 2013 #6

Most rapists know their victims n/t leftstreet Oct 2013 #11

And this fact should be part of predator awareness. n/t Nuclear Unicorn Oct 2013 #19

there should be two separate discussions: how to keep men from raping and how to keep women away yurbud Oct 2013 #13

Sometimes it doesn't even pipi_k Oct 2013 #15

Scary story, has anybody suggested that she look into local martial arts schools? apnu Oct 2013 #17

Will have to wait pipi_k Oct 2013 #23

Martial arts do work. apnu Oct 2013 #26

Has anyone ever written an editorial advising store-owners not to tempt shoplifters? WinkyDink Oct 2013 #21

Don't store owners take some precautions? The2ndWheel Oct 2013 #60

I do get it. But there seems to be a dearth of advice for men not to rape. WinkyDink Oct 2013 #61

Coconut rum? KamaAina Oct 2013 #22

Damn it, I'll get as drunk as I want to, whenever I want to. I'll Zorra Oct 2013 #28

Best post ever on this subject. trumad Oct 2013 #30

Thanks for getting it, trumad. Zorra Oct 2013 #32

No thank you for getting it. trumad Oct 2013 #34

Well said. Paladin Oct 2013 #39

+100000000000 NuclearDem Oct 2013 #45

Thank You!!! n/t retread Oct 2013 #58

There are lots of excellent reasons to not MissMillie Oct 2013 #43

You forgot one thing trumad Oct 2013 #44

It can be MissMillie Oct 2013 #47

More concern trolling about rape. NuclearDem Oct 2013 #46

I know it's not you Trumad, who made the statement Dyedinthewoolliberal Oct 2013 #52

Is it OK to suggest that it is never a good idea for anyone to get so drunk that when they wake up, Nye Bevan Oct 2013 #54

I think "warning" is ok. But you can't then BLAME someone for not "listening to warnings". DireStrike Oct 2013 #57