8 Silliest Things People Say When I Tell Them I Don't Want Kids

[johnlucas]

131. Because women have time limits on childbearing & men don't (except for death).

Nobody should be telling ANYBODY whether they should be having kids or not.
That is a PERSONAL choice & that person must pick the choice he/she feels is best for him/her.

Men are not assholes.
It takes two people to make a baby.
Women are not children & are not hapless victims getting seeded by monster men.
Men can't get ANY WOMAN pregnant without that woman's consent (exceptions in cases of rape, of course).

The reason there's more pressure on women than men on this issue is because of the reality of menopause.
Women have a time limit to decide if they're gonna have kids or not & it's not a whole lot of time either.
Men's only time limit is death because men can make babies all of their lives.
Tony Randall who played the neat one in the TV show The Odd Couple didn't have his FIRST child until he was 77.
Yes you heard right. SEVENTY-SEVEN.

There's a man in India who was 94 before he had his first child! Had another one when he was 96!!

96-year-old Indian 'is world's oldest father'.
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/asia/india/9611894/96-year-old-Indian-is-worlds-oldest-father.html

Women can't do this (though there are some scientists working on the suppression or reversal of menopause).
So the pressure to have babies naturally is going to be on the woman more than the man.
That's not to say men don't ever get pressures. They do.
But the brunt of it will always be on women because of the nature of our biologies.

It's because of menopause AND ALSO because eggs are more valuable than sperm AND ALSO because the woman carries the child in gestation AND ALSO because pregnancy is fragile & risky.
Sperm is plentiful & cheap compared to the limited rationed out set of eggs a female is born with.
Both sperm & eggs are invaluable to the sparking of life but you can have a society with less men & more women & the society won't die out.
A society with more men & less women is bad because you simply don't need that many men to make babies.
Too few women around & they can only carry one pregnancy at a time. Takes too long to repopulate.
Men just drop seed & go on. That's why there are more sperm banks than egg banks.

And speaking of that. BECAUSE men can just go around pollinating like little bees from flower to flower, they have more freedom in sparking new life.
Women get saddled with the cargo & have to wait approximately 9 long months before they even THINK of sparking life again.
And being the holder of that cargo, the cradle of the next generation of humanity, women have more responsibility thrust upon them to make sure that they secure that cargo for unpacking.
They literally hold the future of the entire human race in their wombs.
So yeah pressure on that.

AND making sure this cargo gets delivered for unpacking is a VERY RISKY & FRAGILE process.
Pregnant women are vulnerable & so many things can go wrong inside the womb & outside the womb.
Stillbirths, birth defects, & all kinds of errors that can go on.
And that's just the birthing process! Much less the parenting process afterwards!

Biology. Not enough people repsect the fundamental differences between men & women.
We're NOT exactly THE SAME. And we won't get treated exactly THE SAME.
There's a REASON why we get different treatment in society & it ultimately comes from biology.
Now we can always alter & modify the social rules to make it fairer & more flexible.
But gender roles, gender behaviors, & gender cultures get their origins from these key biological differences.

By the way this key biological difference is why nations usually don't require women to go to war.
Why the saying on sinking ships is Women & Children First. Men are just supposed to sink with the ship?
Why there is a WIC program—Women, Infants, Children. Where's the M for Men? They don't need help?
Why polite society compels men to hold open doors & pull out chairs for women instead of women doing that for men.

Women don't have to sign up for Selective Service at 18.
Going to the military is a CHOICE for women whereas all men are on a quiet reserve list for that military.
War is basically society's way of getting rid of the excess men.
Too many men around here, let's kill 'em off in this war adventure.
Make it sound heroic so they'll be eager to jump in. Whoever comes back alive do your best to deny them their benefits when they get old & broken.
Because you see, it takes much less men to make babies than women.

Men are more disposable in Nature's eyes so nobody cares what they do as much.
That's also why you'll see more homeless men on the streets than anyone else.
Men are disposable unless there's a use for them.

You really don't have it that bad with a few busybodies meddling on your reproductive choices.
John Lucas