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ScreamingMeemie

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48. My dad just moved in with us last December.

Fri Nov 1, 2013, 03:31 PM

Nov 2013

The pros are that I no longer worry so much about him, although he is a very lively post-cancer 69 year old. He is my best friend on earth. He can help out with football practice, driving kid to school, etc. He has his own life. This is important when one has a grown family member move in with them. Treat them like adults. I don't need to know where he's going and who with. I see that so often (the wanting to micromanage the lives of grown adults - whether it's a parent or a child - when they live with you).

The only con? He records a lot of television on the DVR, which bumps my stuff off if I don't save it.

It should never be a deal breaker and, if it is, that person wouldn't be worth the time anyway.

I am grateful for this extra time I get with my dad.

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Would you let your adult child or parents live with you? [View all] MrsKirkley Nov 2013 OP

Yes. ForgoTheConsequence Nov 2013 #1

And on the flip side OriginalGeek Nov 2013 #67

Nice! ForgoTheConsequence Nov 2013 #74

Hell no! I would feed them to the lions for a $20! Rex Nov 2013 #2

Heh. +1 lumberjack_jeff Nov 2013 #39

I would if ever need be, Go Vols Nov 2013 #3

My parents are dead and no way would I want adult children living with me. Kaleva Nov 2013 #4

Yes, to both. GreenStormCloud Nov 2013 #5

Of course. I have in the past and would again. Arkansas Granny Nov 2013 #6

Re offspring...I would, I am not sure that the SO would let her daughter live with her. HereSince1628 Nov 2013 #7

As long as the remote control device remains in my hands Brother Buzz Nov 2013 #8

A man with a firm grasp of the important things in life Fumesucker Nov 2013 #55

Allow them? I'd welcome them! nolabear Nov 2013 #9

Great answer. n/t pnwmom Nov 2013 #79

that's just what decent people do datasuspect Nov 2013 #10

^^^ This.Right.Fucking.Here. Iggo Nov 2013 #34

+2 nomorenomore08 Nov 2013 #50

Yes to both etherealtruth Nov 2013 #11

It's not even a question Prism Nov 2013 #12

My adult child does live us and it is a good arrangement. Luminous Animal Nov 2013 #13

I am very private, and being comfortable in my home is paramount. Sheldon Cooper Nov 2013 #14

I have already done this. Skidmore Nov 2013 #15

Yes, been there, done that, doing it. nt arthritisR_US Nov 2013 #16

Kids yes, parents no gollygee Nov 2013 #17

My thoughts exactly Freddie Nov 2013 #43

I would, but that's me. I'm not much into trying to MineralMan Nov 2013 #18

Two of my kids lived here briefly Blue_In_AK Nov 2013 #19

Yes, this is a multi-generational household. Not easy, but it is what it is. KittyWampus Nov 2013 #20

Absolutely. reflection Nov 2013 #21

Yes! Have done it. Would happily do it again. nt riderinthestorm Nov 2013 #22

I have a sister (55) and son (20) living with me notadmblnd Nov 2013 #23

Kids, yes. randome Nov 2013 #24

lol. My mother is the same way. bunnies Nov 2013 #27

I knew there would be someone who'd understand. randome Nov 2013 #30

I definitely had a "someone like me!" moment when I read your post. bunnies Nov 2013 #35

Yes and Yes otohara Nov 2013 #25

Yes, have done. Also, my grandparents lived with us when I was a kid. FarCenter Nov 2013 #26

I've lived with my parents as an adult laundry_queen Nov 2013 #28

When I get to be my mom's age I hope people will want to help me out pnwmom Nov 2013 #81

With Open Arms!! handmade34 Nov 2013 #29

Of course. I've had my son return home a couple of times. I invited my sinkingfeeling Nov 2013 #31

Yes to both, temporarily... polichick Nov 2013 #32

I already do. Iggo Nov 2013 #33

Yes I would, and I did . . . nt fadedrose Nov 2013 #36

In todays world- ruffburr Nov 2013 #37

One never left…he is 38 years old.. Tikki Nov 2013 #38

Yes, but then I lived in an extended family situation growing up. woodsprite Nov 2013 #40

If they needed to, yes I would... cynatnite Nov 2013 #41

I would love it. But I'd love my kids to be independent even more. lumberjack_jeff Nov 2013 #42

"Let"? Recursion Nov 2013 #44

I'm of an older generation. It's no biggie. haele Nov 2013 #45

Have already done so. truebluegreen Nov 2013 #46

Of course. My grandma was the most disruptive person I've ever known... hunter Nov 2013 #47

My dad just moved in with us last December. ScreamingMeemie Nov 2013 #48

We have a rule in our house--doesn't matter if you're eight or eighty... MADem Nov 2013 #84

Agreed. Those are the rules. Everyone keeps safe that way. JDPriestly Nov 2013 #87

Yes, but as the saying goes, "my house, my rules." Left2Tackle Nov 2013 #49

Seeing as my dad is a grownup, he gets to make his own "rules." ScreamingMeemie Nov 2013 #71

Of course. Family is family Yo_Mama Nov 2013 #51

Of course I would demwing Nov 2013 #52

My wife's mother lives with us upaloopa Nov 2013 #53

The President can say the same catrose Nov 2013 #54

Yes Aerows Nov 2013 #56

My children can stay as long as they are full-time students getting decent grades. Codeine Nov 2013 #57

I sense some family dysfunction here... hunter Nov 2013 #59

You sure had a colorful childhood! MADem Nov 2013 #85

I have been trying to get my elderly parents to move in to my house for years Sen. Walter Sobchak Nov 2013 #58

Our son, his wife and baby lived with us for a year until he got back on his Nay Nov 2013 #60

I'm like the Waltons treestar Nov 2013 #61

I Have Two Little Reasons AnnieBW Nov 2013 #62

Hell yes LittleBlue Nov 2013 #63

Yes. Of course. JaneyVee Nov 2013 #64

my father does live with me. There's no way he could afford to live on his own. We have learned not liberal_at_heart Nov 2013 #65

Been there ChazII Nov 2013 #66

I have 2 of 3 kids back home now. Kali Nov 2013 #68

Yes, in a New York minute. In fact, I want us *all* to live together. LaydeeBug Nov 2013 #69

No, though we would help financially. politicat Nov 2013 #70

I would, except Jamaal510 Nov 2013 #72

In a heartbeat. Bobbie Jo Nov 2013 #73

I already do. Lugnut Nov 2013 #75

yes, we have let our adult child and his wife live with us before gopiscrap Nov 2013 #76

Fine with me. elleng Nov 2013 #77

Yes, and don't forget siblings. pnwmom Nov 2013 #78

both of my parents are long gone, but I could never SheilaT Nov 2013 #80

Story of my life. It's fine with me, we're family oriented. MADem Nov 2013 #82

Once our kids hit college age pnwmom Nov 2013 #83

I'd love it! Our children lived with us after college in order to save a bit of money and while JDPriestly Nov 2013 #86