Fewer men are paying for sex, survey suggests

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412. The motivation for doing something and the consequences from it aren't the same thing.

People do things for their spouse, hell, people do things for others in general because they love them, or because they think it's the right thing to do, or because they feel guilty, or for any number of other reasons.

If you give a starving person some money for food, don't you hope that they eat and not have that money stolen or spent on less important things? If you help your friend out, don't you also hope that they would help you out if it were needed? What you hope for as a consequence of your actions isn't necessarily the motivation for them. The fact that someone is willing to do something not for a "reward", but just for the hope of one indicates to me that the reward isn't the main motivation, unless they start complaining about what they didn't get or thought they were entitled to, in which case maybe it was. That's not what I'm talking about, though. I'm not talking about someone who feels they are "owed" something for doing something nice, but someone who HOPES that something nice results from their actions.

If you do nice things for your spouse to make them happy, because you love them, don't you also hope that your spouse would do nice things for you as well. Doesn't everyone want to believe that their partner as concerned with their happiness as they are about their partner's happiness? As I've said before, I'm not specifically talking about sex here, the reward could be most anything that makes one happy. It may even be something that makes everyone happy.