Fewer men are paying for sex, survey suggests

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415. People do nice things for their spouse because they love and appreciate them,

I do as well. People also like to be reminded that their spouse loves and appreciates them, THAT's the reward, and it can take many forms, from a kind word, to a hug, to a random act of kindness, and even sex. In a healthy relationship, it's sometimes taken for granted that it happens because it regularly happens. In an unhealthy relationship, it's noticed because it doesn't. I've been in both types of relationships, most people I know have as well. If one had been in an unhealthy relationship long enough, even when one end's up in a healthy one, it's something that is often noticed. In some ways, it can lead people to tell them that there's something messed up with them that they would even "think like that". In other ways, it can lead to them having a greater appreciation of their healthy relationship than they otherwise would, because they have something very different to compare it to.