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etherealtruth

(22,165 posts)
97. Abuse is ALWAYS wrong; however, we hear far more about women because women are far more likely
Tue Nov 5, 2013, 10:40 PM
Nov 2013

... to be abused.


http://www.prweb.com/releases/2012/10/prweb10041870.htm

"The American Bar Association and the Department of Justice provide the following statistics about domestic violence:

"about 25 percent of women and 7.6 percent of men are raped or physically assaulted by their spouse, partner, or dating partner in their lifetime"

The following statistics were provided by the Safe Horizon Organization:

women between the ages of 20 and 24 are the most likely to become victims of domestic violence
1 in 3 women killed by homicide are murdered by their current or former partner
3 million children in the United States witness domestic violence every year
25% of now homeless and former heads of households in New York City were the victim of domestic violence"

Violence, rape and abuse are always wrong regardless of the gender of the abuser or the abused. We will hear far more about the female victims of domestic because the victims of domestic abuse are twice as likely to be women. The perpetrators are three times as likely to be men.

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A dear friend had to get a restraining order against his stalker psycho ex-GF. moriah Nov 2013 #1
They are? By who? boston bean Nov 2013 #2
Their romantic partners. Pab Sungenis Nov 2013 #60
You answered something that I wasn't inquiring about. boston bean Nov 2013 #73
A post is made about men being victims of domestic abuse. Pab Sungenis Nov 2013 #74
You are imagining things. But, I know go with what you feel versus what I actually say. boston bean Nov 2013 #76
What you actually say? Pab Sungenis Nov 2013 #77
LOL. boston bean Nov 2013 #79
LOL ... a person reading your post, (without bias Scout Nov 2013 #124
+1 Tuesday Afternoon Nov 2013 #129
I had a HOFer make a joke to me about me getting abused by my mom. EOTE Nov 2013 #135
Dude, That's totally not what I meant ismnotwasm Nov 2013 #138
Yeah, that's TOTALLY not what you meant. EOTE Nov 2013 #139
I don't think you're stupid, but I'm starting to thing you are younger than your chronological age ismnotwasm Nov 2013 #142
You have a knack of following up indefensible shit with more of the same. EOTE Nov 2013 #145
You Don't appear to be interested in what anyone says BainsBane Nov 2013 #157
Yeah, it's me who isn't interested in anyone says. EOTE Nov 2013 #163
I was there to cause dissension and pain says the one making child abuse jokes. EOTE Nov 2013 #140
You do remind me of my brother ismnotwasm Nov 2013 #141
Do you throw child abuse insults at him as well? EOTE Nov 2013 #143
Look if I'm really hurting you I'll just stop ismnotwasm Nov 2013 #146
Yeah, who could have guessed I'd be offended by a child abuse joke? EOTE Nov 2013 #148
Ok you've made your decision and I've made mine ismnotwasm Nov 2013 #150
Of course you retract the apology. EOTE Nov 2013 #162
You appear to be offended BainsBane Nov 2013 #158
Silly me for thinking that words mean things. EOTE Nov 2013 #161
ok, but come on, in the vast majority it is the men doing the beating quinnox Nov 2013 #3
Doesn't make it any better to shame the victim, no matter what the gender. moriah Nov 2013 #5
whatever, we both know the main problem is men beating up their spouses/girlfriends quinnox Nov 2013 #8
And the majority of sexual abuse victims willing to come forward are women, too. moriah Nov 2013 #9
The problem is any partner beating up their partner. Regardless of sex. tammywammy Nov 2013 #13
right, anyway, I maintain it is a red herring to bring this up quinnox Nov 2013 #15
Again, I do hope you don't see expanding acceptance for male survivors of sexual abuse... moriah Nov 2013 #18
wow, so you are a woman and you are saying you think quinnox Nov 2013 #20
More likely, yes. And yes, I'm a woman who has been sexually and mentally abused. moriah Nov 2013 #23
You consider it a distraction; I consider your comment OFFENSIVE. IdaBriggs Nov 2013 #117
Here's the problem --> "The men are the ones with the superior physical strength" Nuclear Unicorn Nov 2013 #164
exactly justabob Nov 2013 #12
According to the CDC, about 40% of domestic violence victims are men. Xithras Nov 2013 #37
Most abused women are not reporting because of a single "slap" either... VanillaRhapsody Nov 2013 #151
Wow. Thanks for that info BainsBane Nov 2013 #159
Not so much actually mythology Nov 2013 #105
Who is ignoring these men? Sheldon Cooper Nov 2013 #4
Police, mainly. People who hear of it and wonder how a man can't defend himself. moriah Nov 2013 #6
Thanks, but I'd like to hear from the OP. Sheldon Cooper Nov 2013 #7
I actually saw this happen on "Cops" anneboleyn Nov 2013 #153
The boyfirend of the woman I once knew... Archae Nov 2013 #10
So, two people. Got it. Sheldon Cooper Nov 2013 #14
According to the article below, it's higher than I thought. Archae Nov 2013 #25
That 40% is from a BS study kcr Nov 2013 #30
the CDC? nt msanthrope Nov 2013 #46
No. nt kcr Nov 2013 #48
The CDC figures above--are you disputing them? nt msanthrope Nov 2013 #50
No kcr Nov 2013 #53
What I believe, is that if women had the physical strength and polly7 Nov 2013 #11
Unfortunately the wish is there, and so is the action, at times Archae Nov 2013 #17
Yes, that's absolutely right. polly7 Nov 2013 #19
That's terrible LittleBlue Nov 2013 #82
Oh, I fought back, all right. polly7 Nov 2013 #85
Of course he is LittleBlue Nov 2013 #90
The funny thing is ...... I don't want him to do badly because he does have people polly7 Nov 2013 #93
Must be hard LittleBlue Nov 2013 #95
Thanks LB, I'm not sure if that's forgiving, and it took me a long time to get there. nt. polly7 Nov 2013 #100
More than 40% of domestic violence victims are male, report reveals ZombieHorde Nov 2013 #16
That was a study done by an MRA group kcr Nov 2013 #21
The data comes from the British Crime Survey. nt ZombieHorde Nov 2013 #33
It's a survey kcr Nov 2013 #39
What is the value to you in delegitimising the survey? sibelian Nov 2013 #119
I could ask you the same question kcr Nov 2013 #121
"I could ask you the same question" sibelian Nov 2013 #122
I didn't answer it because it's a useless question kcr Nov 2013 #123
That's clearly not the case. You choose to believe that the survey is false. sibelian Nov 2013 #130
The way people who believe in evolution just choose to believe it kcr Nov 2013 #131
To make it clear kcr Nov 2013 #133
The US NCVS is one of the best data sets for crime victimization anywhere Major Nikon Nov 2013 #125
I clarified in another post. kcr Nov 2013 #134
What's the difference? Major Nikon Nov 2013 #136
Well yes, there is. kcr Nov 2013 #137
Beats not pointing to a data set and saying, "See!? We're right!" Major Nikon Nov 2013 #144
Not seeing how that works, actually. kcr Nov 2013 #147
Just because you believe they are wrong, doesn't mean they are wrong Major Nikon Nov 2013 #152
absolute bullshit study. cali Nov 2013 #27
The data comes from the British Crime Survey. nt ZombieHorde Nov 2013 #32
Why do you say that? sibelian Nov 2013 #120
Here are some real stats... quinnox Nov 2013 #22
If the rights of 15% of the population are to be ignored.... moriah Nov 2013 #26
The point is, who is saying they should be ignored? kcr Nov 2013 #28
I just think that it is not the most pressing issue quinnox Nov 2013 #31
Thanks for just dumping us guys in the garbage. Archae Nov 2013 #35
oh, give me a break quinnox Nov 2013 #36
Thank you for your "women can do no wrong." Archae Nov 2013 #38
You're doing it all wrong 1000words Nov 2013 #47
Do you honestly think the effectiveness of programs that try to address domestic violence... moriah Nov 2013 #41
Good post. n/t tammywammy Nov 2013 #42
Fine. I am starting to get annoyed, so quinnox Nov 2013 #44
I apologiize, I'm a somewhat aggressive debater when I feel I see injustice, no matter to whom. n/t moriah Nov 2013 #45
Sometimes it would just be better if she beat on me instead. 1-Old-Man Nov 2013 #24
I've heard of it... stillcool Nov 2013 #29
I was reminded of this woman I knew of, after seeing an abuse video here. Archae Nov 2013 #34
Did the video posted in HoF prompt this thread. boston bean Nov 2013 #40
see. i thought that was the reason, and the turn off for the thread. but i saw a poster down below seabeyond Nov 2013 #114
Was it this video? polly7 Nov 2013 #43
Yes, that was the one. Archae Nov 2013 #49
Nice set up kcr Nov 2013 #51
You know what? polly7 Nov 2013 #56
I think they do care. They just don't want to see the plight of women to be disregarded either. moriah Nov 2013 #59
I agree completely. kcr Nov 2013 #67
Are you saying that I don't think men count? boston bean Nov 2013 #54
See post 31. I think that's what he's referring to. n/t tammywammy Nov 2013 #62
Yes. Pab Sungenis Nov 2013 #63
This is comical. Yes you have but we got nothing to really show you feel that way. boston bean Nov 2013 #65
Your misandry is well known around here Pab Sungenis Nov 2013 #68
Oh please do link to it. boston bean Nov 2013 #71
Oh, so, taking a stand in support chervilant Nov 2013 #108
I think you're confusing "infer" and "imply" LanternWaste Nov 2013 #155
Yeah that's the one posted in HoF about an hour before that one. boston bean Nov 2013 #52
So fucking WHAT??? nt. polly7 Nov 2013 #57
Wow! Angry. Sorry for mentioning it. LOL boston bean Nov 2013 #58
So damned lame. Jeesus. nt. polly7 Nov 2013 #61
See my response to you prior. boston bean Nov 2013 #66
nah. nt polly7 Nov 2013 #70
Ok. boston bean Nov 2013 #72
I see it in the courts-- msanthrope Nov 2013 #55
Maybe you should research the stats... cynatnite Nov 2013 #64
Its wrong for either sex to abuse. Period. nt riderinthestorm Nov 2013 #69
I agree. In_The_Wind Nov 2013 #132
How's that? Texasgal Nov 2013 #75
A very graphic public service domestic violence video of a woman beaten, boston bean Nov 2013 #78
Your post is quite a leap. A little more practice and you can jump the grand canyon. polly7 Nov 2013 #80
Ah no, I am not. Boy you folks sure got some imaginations going on and always boston bean Nov 2013 #81
We do see results of men. Texasgal Nov 2013 #86
Did I say you don't care? polly7 Nov 2013 #87
Simply by being pro woman Texasgal Nov 2013 #89
I'm pro human. Sorry you got mixed up with your pronouns. Shit happens. nt. polly7 Nov 2013 #91
Seriously. Texasgal Nov 2013 #92
Make up what you like, it seems to entertain you. nt. polly7 Nov 2013 #94
wow. Texasgal Nov 2013 #96
What did you expect with those bullshit accusations? Buh bye though. polly7 Nov 2013 #98
Do you not get Texasgal Nov 2013 #103
Same here, chervilant Nov 2013 #166
The woman is in jail, right? Mariana Nov 2013 #83
Exactly. boston bean Nov 2013 #84
We'll see for how long davidn3600 Nov 2013 #88
Abuse is ALWAYS wrong; however, we hear far more about women because women are far more likely etherealtruth Nov 2013 #97
Don't say that you MAN HATER!! Texasgal Nov 2013 #99
Oh, man you caught me etherealtruth Nov 2013 #101
ridiculed? by who? other men? cause you are not gonna be hearing that shit from women. abuse is seabeyond Nov 2013 #102
Yes, often, by men. Men are the majority of police officers, at least in my state. moriah Nov 2013 #104
It is a cycle of violence. lumberjack_jeff Nov 2013 #106
I agree, men (especially LEOs) need to take this more seriously and stop shaming men bettyellen Nov 2013 #126
Bored much? Rex Nov 2013 #107
I'm a male who has been abused by women (parents and partners). Recursion Nov 2013 #109
thanks for this info. your info is important. there is a mens forum. since it is about silence, seabeyond Nov 2013 #110
I was irked enough to do an OP on this Recursion Nov 2013 #111
it simply cannot be allowed to be. we cannot do that. bUT... this is important enough mens issue, seabeyond Nov 2013 #112
Thanks, seabeyond Recursion Nov 2013 #113
:thumbsup: Orrex Nov 2013 #118
I'm sorry that this happened. HappyMe Nov 2013 #115
That's a separate question, and still not really comparable Recursion Nov 2013 #116
My stepfather endured vicious slaps, punches (face), dishes smashed over his head anneboleyn Nov 2013 #160
In my state both parties get arrested if there is not a clear victim. ismnotwasm Nov 2013 #127
Comedian Louie CK on women vs men Beringia Nov 2013 #128
I've been in a relationship with an abusive woman madville Nov 2013 #149
I know a man with a similar situation. no_hypocrisy Nov 2013 #165
Women accounted for 85% of the victims of intimate partner violence, men for approximately 15%. LanternWaste Nov 2013 #154
I expect female abuse of men is more common than we realize BainsBane Nov 2013 #156
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