I hear quite often about domestic abusers... (Update)

[no_hypocrisy]

165. I know a man with a similar situation.

He was dating a girl 40+ years ago. She insisted they get married. He tried to break off the engagement but she threatened to kill herself. Even the priest who did their Catholic premarital counseling told both of them they shouldn't married. She was bound and determined to marry him.

After they married, she suddenly demonstrated violent rages. She screamed at him, swore at him. She threw large carving knives at him and a large heavy glass vase at his head.

They had two children. That didn't affect her behavior. If anything, she now had leverage against him to prevent him from leaving her.

After 40 years of marriage, she still will surprise him with sudden rages that are not appropriate responses to average frustrations or complaints. While she is not physically violent anymore, she still screams and curses, and insults him every chance she has. An unfortunate byproduct is that their daughter has now emulated her mother and is a clone with her husband, criticizing him and screaming about nothing.

My friend doesn't sit there and take the abuse. He quickly leaves the home whenever his wife "acts up". He finds excuses to avoid living with her. He still takes responsibility for taking care of her as a husband, but he refuses to be a victim.