42 years. he had female friends and i had male friends. most times we knew the person. he would tell me about a woman at work and say "you've got to meet her -- you'd really like her" in which case i would say "let's have her over for dinner". same with my male friends. many times we became friends with both the man and his wife.
i've been friends with a guy since '84. i'm 72. he's 55. he's like my little brother. and yes, he met my husband several times. came to stay with us back about 10 years ago.
hubby passed away 5/12 and michael is my emotional support. we talk every week for at least an hour -- sometimes longer. he came out to stay with me in april. because i watch tv and record in my bedroom we watched tv at night on my bed along with my cat. i've never thought about him in a sexual way and i doubt he's thought about me that way. back when AIDS was an epidemic i asked him if he was being careful. he took out his wallet and showed me the imprint of a condom.
someone recently asked me if i ever thought about michael in a sexual way. i said "no", but my answer should have been "do you have a sister -- have you ever thought about having sex with your sister"?
i don't know what i'd do without my friend howie. he's my massage therapist. when my husband got sick he said "make me a list of everything john does and i'll take care of it". and he has. packed up all of john's clothes -- got his cars sold, etc. he fixes things around the house for me. and yes he's married to a wonderful woman who i like. sometimes the 3 of us go out to dinner, but many times it's just howie and me because his wife is a nurse and is "on call" a lot. i was invited to their house last xmas but couldn't go because i was grieving so much -- couldn't stop crying. i did go there for easter and will be going for thanksgiving.
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