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115. Many restaurants have policies against long hair/make-up/perfume/etc

Fri Nov 15, 2013, 08:26 AM

Nov 2013

My best friend has been in the restaurant/hospitality business her whole life & she's always said that they go out of their way to create neutrality:

no long fingernails
no bright nail polish
no perfume
no piercings (visible)
no visible tattoos
no nailbiters
no hair touching the shoulders
no "heavy" make-up/bright eye shadow/lipstick
chino or black slacks (loose fitting).. company logo polo-style shirts (loose-fitting)..sensible shoes

The whole idea for cooks/food-handlers/servers, is cleanliness, friendliness, and efficiency.

She said she always had a few (especially younger) women who decided that being sexy & flirtatious was the way to get better tips, but in a family dining establishment that's the LAST thing a manager/owner wants from his waitresses/waiters.. She would tell them "This isn't Hooters...please tone it down ".

People who stiff waiters/waitresses are just rude, mean people who would probably not tip for any reason. They write mean things to justify to themselves, that they are in the right.. They are always wrong..

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N.J. Waitress Stiffed on $93 Bill for Perceived Lesbianism [View all] William769 Nov 2013 OP

that diner is a fucking asshole! gopiscrap Nov 2013 #1

Apparently a tight one also! William769 Nov 2013 #3

Christian Love�! xfundy Nov 2013 #2

"I'm sorry but" gollygee Nov 2013 #4

no kidding gopiscrap Nov 2013 #8

No kidding Dorian Gray Nov 2013 #113

I have an exceptionally hard time believing this is true. Gravitycollapse Nov 2013 #5

Well thats one difference between me and you. William769 Nov 2013 #7

Why? gollygee Nov 2013 #11

Because it doesn't make a lot of sense that someone would break tip etiquette for gay bashing. Gravitycollapse Nov 2013 #13

You must lead a really sheltered life. William769 Nov 2013 #14

The last one for the Red Lobster girl and the receipt with N@!#$ written on it... Decaffeinated Nov 2013 #36

No, it wasn't. Sissyk Nov 2013 #82

Maybe he got the guy in the booth next to them to write it... Decaffeinated Nov 2013 #110

Do you think bigots usually make sense? It appears that you do. bettyellen Nov 2013 #18

You don't know many from the Religious Right do you? VanillaRhapsody Nov 2013 #19

In my opinion, gay bashers do not know a lot about etiquette. Luminous Animal Nov 2013 #22

Lets shed some light on the subject. William769 Nov 2013 #23

Well, that was disturbing and thank you for the info. Luminous Animal Nov 2013 #29

Wow. gollygee Nov 2013 #32

Not sure why you think that's so embarrassing. Gravitycollapse Nov 2013 #46

"Voooooo-LARE!" Warren DeMontague Nov 2013 #56

Holy fucking shit! And this bigot is still allowed to post... idwiyo Nov 2013 #93

You don't even understand that my post was in opposition to the upcoming Olympics. Gravitycollapse Nov 2013 #100

whoa. abelenkpe Nov 2013 #127

When I was a server I experienced just the opposite. Gravitycollapse Nov 2013 #43

yeah, I always enjoyed getting religious literature in lieu of cash. unapatriciated Nov 2013 #62

WOW. Where have you been? Cali_Democrat Nov 2013 #30

Lurking for a while. Pab Sungenis Nov 2013 #37

Which was probably my best hidden post ever. Gravitycollapse Nov 2013 #41

That post was disgarceful and you should be ashamed of yourself for writing it. idwiyo Nov 2013 #94

My post was actually not disgraceful at all. That so many people missed the point... Gravitycollapse Nov 2013 #96

But of course! One look at your posts shitting all over this thread makes it very clear. idwiyo Nov 2013 #98

About how much sense does it make to you that an LGBTQ DUer Gravitycollapse Nov 2013 #99

I can point you to a number of posts from anti-choice female DUers. THAT much sense. idwiyo Nov 2013 #102

Yeah, I'm not a homophobe. Not by ANY stretch of the imagination. Gravitycollapse Nov 2013 #103

You have no one but youself to blame for it. I beleive that waitress because I damn well know what idwiyo Nov 2013 #104

Like I said, there is nothing wrong with what I wrote. Gravitycollapse Nov 2013 #105

Well, if so many people misunderstood your intent there is something wrong with your posts. idwiyo Nov 2013 #111

People have been beaten to death for being gay. Incitatus Nov 2013 #40

Perhaps you have insufficiently wide experience in this area? JHB Nov 2013 #44

Have you ever had a job where you had to deal with the public? Warren DeMontague Nov 2013 #54

Yes I've worked in retail and as a server for the better part of 9 years. Gravitycollapse Nov 2013 #66

Here's the formula I developed, from years and years of my own experience. Warren DeMontague Nov 2013 #70

You said it Warren spiderpig Nov 2013 #106

Sure. Sissyk Nov 2013 #81

hee-hee...you's bad! Behind the Aegis Nov 2013 #83

I is not bad! lol Sissyk Nov 2013 #86

That's what I was driving for, but missed the turn lane. Behind the Aegis Nov 2013 #87

It's *not* rational, that's the thing. So I can see how someone who hasn't experienced it nomorenomore08 Nov 2013 #91

Homophobes still have to function in society. They don't literally run around everywhere... Gravitycollapse Nov 2013 #89

And you know that because you are gay, and never experienced any bigotry. Yes? idwiyo Nov 2013 #95

No, I know that because I live in a state filled to the brim with homophobic assholes. Gravitycollapse Nov 2013 #97

I am an emigrant who will pass for local until I start talking. My BF DID NOT believe me idwiyo Nov 2013 #101

It happened a few weeks ago Change has come Nov 2013 #90

Would you believe someone would boast of their religious beliefs? bigbrother05 Nov 2013 #119

Just every single other form of etiquette? Orsino Nov 2013 #124

Gay bashers follow tip etiquette where you're from? Iggo Nov 2013 #126

I worked full-time waiting tables during college hatrack Nov 2013 #21

Did you doubt the story about essentially the same thing that bullwinkle428 Nov 2013 #24

I was not aware of that other story. Gravitycollapse Nov 2013 #47

I live in the area. I'd be surprised if it wasn't true. name not needed Nov 2013 #58

I agree Egnever Nov 2013 #61

It may turn out like 840high Nov 2013 #73

I have no trouble at all believing it because I waited tables LuvNewcastle Nov 2013 #112

I am not a Waitress, but as a 65 year old female HockeyMom Nov 2013 #6

They are entitled to their beliefs and not leaving a quinnox Nov 2013 #9

There is no excuse to not leave a tip for that reason bigwillq Nov 2013 #16

I'm not referring to the morality of it quinnox Nov 2013 #20

People that choose not to tip for any reason (other than a very bullwinkle428 Nov 2013 #26

I always tip in a restaurant quinnox Nov 2013 #27

I can think of maybe once in my life when I've actually done that, and yes Warren DeMontague Nov 2013 #55

I'm almost 50, and can think of only 2 very specific cases where I received bullwinkle428 Nov 2013 #76

Same here with all of that. Warren DeMontague Nov 2013 #84

Cheapskates. closeupready Nov 2013 #10

... William769 Nov 2013 #17

Another instance of people using sanctimony to conceal their being cheap mofos. lpbk2713 Nov 2013 #12

^^^THIS^^^ nt eppur_se_muova Nov 2013 #45

+1 Frank Cannon Nov 2013 #114

Maybe restaurants need to either pay a decent hourly wage Matariki Nov 2013 #15

European resturaunts edhopper Nov 2013 #120

Exactly. Matariki Nov 2013 #125

Bill Maher: When did "love thy neighbor" become "fuck off and die"? Initech Nov 2013 #25

Spot on! William769 Nov 2013 #28

Yup! Initech Nov 2013 #88

This is an instant Bill Maher classic. Quantess Nov 2013 #129

"because I don�t agree with your lifestyle" I'd give a 100 bucks to be next to a table.. BlueJazz Nov 2013 #31

It was my night to "hostess", madamesilverspurs Nov 2013 #33

What a great thing to do. William769 Nov 2013 #35

It is real difficult mercuryblues Nov 2013 #34

Some bigots feel entitled to spew their homophobia. Behind the Aegis Nov 2013 #38

Amen to that! William769 Nov 2013 #39

And the fools used a credit card to do this? Gormy Cuss Nov 2013 #42

As Bill Maher said, just because you're eating out doesn't mean .... Scuba Nov 2013 #48

That family is absolutely disgusting. Vashta Nerada Nov 2013 #49

Agreed. William769 Nov 2013 #50

Why does it always stop these people from tipping the server Spirochete Nov 2013 #51

This is why if I ever open a restaurant... Chan790 Nov 2013 #52

"I'm sorry, but Jesus wants me to stiff you" Warren DeMontague Nov 2013 #53

How the eff did the bigot know the woman was gay? KamaAina Nov 2013 #57

Ok I am starting to smell bullshit Egnever Nov 2013 #59

Watch the video in post #25. William769 Nov 2013 #63

Oh I am sure it happens occasionally Egnever Nov 2013 #64

People are idiots. Especially attention seeking idiots... TeeYiYi Nov 2013 #65

Could have been the (insert minority here) Egnever Nov 2013 #67

Hmmmm... I see what you mean... TeeYiYi Nov 2013 #68

She did admit faking it. 840high Nov 2013 #75

Just posted that. 840high Nov 2013 #74

Sick... TeeYiYi Nov 2013 #60

Stories like this always seem to be about something that they're not really about (to me) Captain Stern Nov 2013 #69

I'm going to go there this weekend JustAnotherGen Nov 2013 #71

seems like there's a different story like this circulating every couple weeks 0rganism Nov 2013 #72

They should be charged with theft rurallib Nov 2013 #77

That is absolutely not theft. Gravitycollapse Nov 2013 #80

a "christian' excuse to be fucking CHEEP. plus assholes. pansypoo53219 Nov 2013 #78

Aren't these the same jerks that stiffed a Gay waiter at an Italian restaurant a few weeks back? diabeticman Nov 2013 #79

Make Tipping Mandatory erpowers Nov 2013 #85

k&r x-tian values at it's best. idwiyo Nov 2013 #92

From the restaraunt's Facebook: TheMightyFavog Nov 2013 #107

That rocks! Behind the Aegis Nov 2013 #108

Well, there ya go, then! kentauros Nov 2013 #122

When I did waitressing, I always kept my hair short because keeping it clean was much easier eridani Nov 2013 #109

Many restaurants have policies against long hair/make-up/perfume/etc SoCalDem Nov 2013 #115

It's another FAKE RECEIPT, people. Good grief, how many must "happen" before one catches on? WinkyDink Nov 2013 #116

The restaurant management is saying it happened. tammywammy Nov 2013 #117

Really? Well, the Credit Card statement would beg to differ. WinkyDink Nov 2013 #136

Did you see that my post was on 15 Nov and new information came out yesterday? tammywammy Nov 2013 #137

So, just because opportunistic people have made such sites kentauros Nov 2013 #123

I was a server/bartender for over 10 years obxhead Nov 2013 #133

Alec Baldwin? Puzzledtraveller Nov 2013 #118

I call shenanigans. AngryAmish Nov 2013 #121

I wonder what mom's alcohol blood concentration was at the end of the night jmowreader Nov 2013 #128

This must have been Chris Christie having his afternoon snack Pretzel_Warrior Nov 2013 #130

This message was self-deleted by its author William769 Nov 2013 #131

Perhaps I don't have the world's greatest "gaydar" Nye Bevan Nov 2013 #132

Anyone wanna change their comments? nt Llewlladdwr Nov 2013 #134

Not I! Called fake, is fake. WinkyDink Nov 2013 #135