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In reply to the discussion: TX school brings in Christian misogynist to lecture students about dating, students shut him down [View all]libodem
(19,288 posts)Recognised this for what it is. Conservative patronizing of women and the assignment of guilt, and shame on the female for the biology of attraction. It goes back to Eve and the apple, tempting Adam into sinning against his ignorance with knowledge. Carnal knowledge. I'm sick of it.
That being said, the power of sexual attraction is enormous. Like a giant magnet, the urge to merge, is an animal instinct. In our effort to suppress everything educational and informative about sex from girls, so they won't experiment from knowledge, they barely acknowledge that they do have the power to attract. I say make them aware but don't slut shame any one. Man, some of the stuff my own mom said to me in anger would curl your hair.
Both young men and women need to have respect for each other. Guys need guidance on boundries and where not to cross.
I was about 12 or 13 in 1970. I remember being impressed back in Jr high by a magazine article detailing a court account of a rape trial. And the defense asked those questions, that are not supposed to be asked now, about how late was the hour, how dark was it outside when you went walking, how short was your skirt, how high were your heels, do you have a boyfriend, how far have you let him go, were you a virgin, how many partners do you think you've had, did you like it, did you know the perp, what is your reputation???? I took some liberty here but I felt like that victim got raped twice. I don't think trials are allowed to take this tract, these days. I hope we have come that far.
Meanwhile I hope we are teaching our daughters and grand daughters to have self esteem and dignity so they won't let some yayhoo bully them into sex they are not ready for.