You're talking about specific officers that did something specific. The cop hating that goes on here is all those people that actually believe that all cops are bad people just because they're cops. Makes no sense at all, is bigoted as it gets, and trying to explain the opinion away with the excuse of having had even as little as one bad experience with a cop somehow makes it reasonable to hate them all. Yet they would never think to take that attitude were it anyone else but a cop... having a bad experience with a bank teller, postman, hairdresser, etc., etc. doesn't prompt them to hate all bank tellers, postmen, hairdressers, etc., etc. and even they would think that would be really stupid. It's only police officers that for no logical reason it's "different" and therefore appropriate to hate them all because of even just one that did something presumably wrong. If I took that attitude with all the people that I've had a bad experience with I'd be hating just about everyone in the world right now. Everyone runs ito someone while in the capacity of whatever their job is that says or does something inappropriate, or stupid or mean, but nobody with sense thinks it would then be reasonable to hate everyone with that same job. Yet we have that crazy crap when it comes to the police all over DU and it's a huge group.
That was a really stupid thing for that officer to say. Had he just said "sorry, but I have to give you a ticket" I doubt you'd be angry. I think the bigger problem in this situation was that there were two officers, and I think one of them wanted to ticket you while the other (had he been alone and not in an awkward position with the other officer) likely may have let you off with a warning. I also think he was trying to make you feel better about having gotten the ticket, but it was just a really horribly phrased comment under the circumstances. That was just a really bad foot-in-mouth moment. I'm not sure really how to explain it, but it's something I've done myself a few times where I was trying to say something positive but the way it came out was just ironically really the worst thing I could have said, and the few times I've done it myself it's just sooooo embarrassing.
I really feel for your predicament all the way around, not just this one thing with the ticket and the car. I've been in a really bad financial place lately as well, and it always seems when you're already in a bad spot that you get piled on with all manner of other issues that make the general problem unbelievably worse. It's crazy that it always seems to the be worst times in our lives when we get these pile ons of more problems and when life is smooth sailing nothing unfortunate ever seems to happen. Murphy's Law I think that is?
Anyway, I'm really glad that you got situated at Wishadoo and really hope that people that have a little to spare can help you out. I really just love the whole concept of Wishadoo, and there's no doubt that it's helped many people in a time of crisis. People that have never been in such a hopeless broke place just can't really understand how terrifying and incredibly stressful it is. I guess it's one of those things one needs to experience for themselves to really understand that it's sooooo much worse than most imagine. It takes an unbelievable toll on the whole psyche that people can get so depressed, anxious, unmotivated etc., that they get an almost paralysis in being capable of doing anything to help themselves... like, just simple things like taking a shower suddenly becomes a huge chore that you have to expend a mountain of energy to psyche yourself up for to just DO it. That's what's so scary about long time bad situations... the longer you're in the situation the more you lose the fortitude to get even simple every day things accomplished. I really feel for you. It's just the most awful place to be.
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