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chervilant

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166. Same here,

Reply to Texasgal (Reply #103)

Sun Nov 17, 2013, 07:07 AM

Nov 2013

same reasons, I'm sure. (And, if true to form, will post some response -- despite being made aware of IL status.)

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I hear quite often about domestic abusers... (Update) [View all] Archae Nov 2013 OP

A dear friend had to get a restraining order against his stalker psycho ex-GF. moriah Nov 2013 #1

They are? By who? boston bean Nov 2013 #2

Their romantic partners. Pab Sungenis Nov 2013 #60

You answered something that I wasn't inquiring about. boston bean Nov 2013 #73

A post is made about men being victims of domestic abuse. Pab Sungenis Nov 2013 #74

You are imagining things. But, I know go with what you feel versus what I actually say. boston bean Nov 2013 #76

What you actually say? Pab Sungenis Nov 2013 #77

LOL. boston bean Nov 2013 #79

LOL ... a person reading your post, (without bias Scout Nov 2013 #124

+1 Tuesday Afternoon Nov 2013 #129

I had a HOFer make a joke to me about me getting abused by my mom. EOTE Nov 2013 #135

Dude, That's totally not what I meant ismnotwasm Nov 2013 #138

Yeah, that's TOTALLY not what you meant. EOTE Nov 2013 #139

I don't think you're stupid, but I'm starting to thing you are younger than your chronological age ismnotwasm Nov 2013 #142

You have a knack of following up indefensible shit with more of the same. EOTE Nov 2013 #145

You Don't appear to be interested in what anyone says BainsBane Nov 2013 #157

Yeah, it's me who isn't interested in anyone says. EOTE Nov 2013 #163

I was there to cause dissension and pain says the one making child abuse jokes. EOTE Nov 2013 #140

You do remind me of my brother ismnotwasm Nov 2013 #141

Do you throw child abuse insults at him as well? EOTE Nov 2013 #143

Look if I'm really hurting you I'll just stop ismnotwasm Nov 2013 #146

Yeah, who could have guessed I'd be offended by a child abuse joke? EOTE Nov 2013 #148

Ok you've made your decision and I've made mine ismnotwasm Nov 2013 #150

Of course you retract the apology. EOTE Nov 2013 #162

You appear to be offended BainsBane Nov 2013 #158

Silly me for thinking that words mean things. EOTE Nov 2013 #161

ok, but come on, in the vast majority it is the men doing the beating quinnox Nov 2013 #3

Doesn't make it any better to shame the victim, no matter what the gender. moriah Nov 2013 #5

whatever, we both know the main problem is men beating up their spouses/girlfriends quinnox Nov 2013 #8

And the majority of sexual abuse victims willing to come forward are women, too. moriah Nov 2013 #9

The problem is any partner beating up their partner. Regardless of sex. tammywammy Nov 2013 #13

right, anyway, I maintain it is a red herring to bring this up quinnox Nov 2013 #15

Again, I do hope you don't see expanding acceptance for male survivors of sexual abuse... moriah Nov 2013 #18

wow, so you are a woman and you are saying you think quinnox Nov 2013 #20

More likely, yes. And yes, I'm a woman who has been sexually and mentally abused. moriah Nov 2013 #23

You consider it a distraction; I consider your comment OFFENSIVE. IdaBriggs Nov 2013 #117

Here's the problem --> "The men are the ones with the superior physical strength" Nuclear Unicorn Nov 2013 #164

exactly justabob Nov 2013 #12

According to the CDC, about 40% of domestic violence victims are men. Xithras Nov 2013 #37

Most abused women are not reporting because of a single "slap" either... VanillaRhapsody Nov 2013 #151

Wow. Thanks for that info BainsBane Nov 2013 #159

Not so much actually mythology Nov 2013 #105

Who is ignoring these men? Sheldon Cooper Nov 2013 #4

Police, mainly. People who hear of it and wonder how a man can't defend himself. moriah Nov 2013 #6

Thanks, but I'd like to hear from the OP. Sheldon Cooper Nov 2013 #7

I actually saw this happen on "Cops" anneboleyn Nov 2013 #153

The boyfirend of the woman I once knew... Archae Nov 2013 #10

So, two people. Got it. Sheldon Cooper Nov 2013 #14

According to the article below, it's higher than I thought. Archae Nov 2013 #25

That 40% is from a BS study kcr Nov 2013 #30

the CDC? nt msanthrope Nov 2013 #46

No. nt kcr Nov 2013 #48

The CDC figures above--are you disputing them? nt msanthrope Nov 2013 #50

No kcr Nov 2013 #53

What I believe, is that if women had the physical strength and polly7 Nov 2013 #11

Unfortunately the wish is there, and so is the action, at times Archae Nov 2013 #17

Yes, that's absolutely right. polly7 Nov 2013 #19

That's terrible LittleBlue Nov 2013 #82

Oh, I fought back, all right. polly7 Nov 2013 #85

Of course he is LittleBlue Nov 2013 #90

The funny thing is ...... I don't want him to do badly because he does have people polly7 Nov 2013 #93

Must be hard LittleBlue Nov 2013 #95

Thanks LB, I'm not sure if that's forgiving, and it took me a long time to get there. nt. polly7 Nov 2013 #100

More than 40% of domestic violence victims are male, report reveals ZombieHorde Nov 2013 #16

That was a study done by an MRA group kcr Nov 2013 #21

The data comes from the British Crime Survey. nt ZombieHorde Nov 2013 #33

It's a survey kcr Nov 2013 #39

What is the value to you in delegitimising the survey? sibelian Nov 2013 #119

I could ask you the same question kcr Nov 2013 #121

"I could ask you the same question" sibelian Nov 2013 #122

I didn't answer it because it's a useless question kcr Nov 2013 #123

That's clearly not the case. You choose to believe that the survey is false. sibelian Nov 2013 #130

The way people who believe in evolution just choose to believe it kcr Nov 2013 #131

To make it clear kcr Nov 2013 #133

The US NCVS is one of the best data sets for crime victimization anywhere Major Nikon Nov 2013 #125

I clarified in another post. kcr Nov 2013 #134

What's the difference? Major Nikon Nov 2013 #136

Well yes, there is. kcr Nov 2013 #137

Beats not pointing to a data set and saying, "See!? We're right!" Major Nikon Nov 2013 #144

Not seeing how that works, actually. kcr Nov 2013 #147

Just because you believe they are wrong, doesn't mean they are wrong Major Nikon Nov 2013 #152

absolute bullshit study. cali Nov 2013 #27

The data comes from the British Crime Survey. nt ZombieHorde Nov 2013 #32

Why do you say that? sibelian Nov 2013 #120

Here are some real stats... quinnox Nov 2013 #22

If the rights of 15% of the population are to be ignored.... moriah Nov 2013 #26

The point is, who is saying they should be ignored? kcr Nov 2013 #28

I just think that it is not the most pressing issue quinnox Nov 2013 #31

Thanks for just dumping us guys in the garbage. Archae Nov 2013 #35

oh, give me a break quinnox Nov 2013 #36

Thank you for your "women can do no wrong." Archae Nov 2013 #38

You're doing it all wrong 1000words Nov 2013 #47

Do you honestly think the effectiveness of programs that try to address domestic violence... moriah Nov 2013 #41

Good post. n/t tammywammy Nov 2013 #42

Fine. I am starting to get annoyed, so quinnox Nov 2013 #44

I apologiize, I'm a somewhat aggressive debater when I feel I see injustice, no matter to whom. n/t moriah Nov 2013 #45

Sometimes it would just be better if she beat on me instead. 1-Old-Man Nov 2013 #24

I've heard of it... stillcool Nov 2013 #29

I was reminded of this woman I knew of, after seeing an abuse video here. Archae Nov 2013 #34

Did the video posted in HoF prompt this thread. boston bean Nov 2013 #40

see. i thought that was the reason, and the turn off for the thread. but i saw a poster down below seabeyond Nov 2013 #114

Was it this video? polly7 Nov 2013 #43

Yes, that was the one. Archae Nov 2013 #49

Nice set up kcr Nov 2013 #51

You know what? polly7 Nov 2013 #56

I think they do care. They just don't want to see the plight of women to be disregarded either. moriah Nov 2013 #59

I agree completely. kcr Nov 2013 #67

Are you saying that I don't think men count? boston bean Nov 2013 #54

See post 31. I think that's what he's referring to. n/t tammywammy Nov 2013 #62

Yes. Pab Sungenis Nov 2013 #63

This is comical. Yes you have but we got nothing to really show you feel that way. boston bean Nov 2013 #65

Your misandry is well known around here Pab Sungenis Nov 2013 #68

Oh please do link to it. boston bean Nov 2013 #71

Oh, so, taking a stand in support chervilant Nov 2013 #108

I think you're confusing "infer" and "imply" LanternWaste Nov 2013 #155

Yeah that's the one posted in HoF about an hour before that one. boston bean Nov 2013 #52

So fucking WHAT??? nt. polly7 Nov 2013 #57

Wow! Angry. Sorry for mentioning it. LOL boston bean Nov 2013 #58

So damned lame. Jeesus. nt. polly7 Nov 2013 #61

See my response to you prior. boston bean Nov 2013 #66

nah. nt polly7 Nov 2013 #70

Ok. boston bean Nov 2013 #72

I see it in the courts-- msanthrope Nov 2013 #55

Maybe you should research the stats... cynatnite Nov 2013 #64

Its wrong for either sex to abuse. Period. nt riderinthestorm Nov 2013 #69

I agree. In_The_Wind Nov 2013 #132

How's that? Texasgal Nov 2013 #75

A very graphic public service domestic violence video of a woman beaten, boston bean Nov 2013 #78

Your post is quite a leap. A little more practice and you can jump the grand canyon. polly7 Nov 2013 #80

Ah no, I am not. Boy you folks sure got some imaginations going on and always boston bean Nov 2013 #81

We do see results of men. Texasgal Nov 2013 #86

Did I say you don't care? polly7 Nov 2013 #87

Simply by being pro woman Texasgal Nov 2013 #89

I'm pro human. Sorry you got mixed up with your pronouns. Shit happens. nt. polly7 Nov 2013 #91

Seriously. Texasgal Nov 2013 #92

Make up what you like, it seems to entertain you. nt. polly7 Nov 2013 #94

wow. Texasgal Nov 2013 #96

What did you expect with those bullshit accusations? Buh bye though. polly7 Nov 2013 #98

Do you not get Texasgal Nov 2013 #103

Same here, chervilant Nov 2013 #166

The woman is in jail, right? Mariana Nov 2013 #83

Exactly. boston bean Nov 2013 #84

We'll see for how long davidn3600 Nov 2013 #88

Abuse is ALWAYS wrong; however, we hear far more about women because women are far more likely etherealtruth Nov 2013 #97

Don't say that you MAN HATER!! Texasgal Nov 2013 #99

Oh, man you caught me etherealtruth Nov 2013 #101

ridiculed? by who? other men? cause you are not gonna be hearing that shit from women. abuse is seabeyond Nov 2013 #102

Yes, often, by men. Men are the majority of police officers, at least in my state. moriah Nov 2013 #104

It is a cycle of violence. lumberjack_jeff Nov 2013 #106

I agree, men (especially LEOs) need to take this more seriously and stop shaming men bettyellen Nov 2013 #126

Bored much? Rex Nov 2013 #107

I'm a male who has been abused by women (parents and partners). Recursion Nov 2013 #109

thanks for this info. your info is important. there is a mens forum. since it is about silence, seabeyond Nov 2013 #110

I was irked enough to do an OP on this Recursion Nov 2013 #111

it simply cannot be allowed to be. we cannot do that. bUT... this is important enough mens issue, seabeyond Nov 2013 #112

Thanks, seabeyond Recursion Nov 2013 #113

:thumbsup: Orrex Nov 2013 #118

I'm sorry that this happened. HappyMe Nov 2013 #115

That's a separate question, and still not really comparable Recursion Nov 2013 #116

My stepfather endured vicious slaps, punches (face), dishes smashed over his head anneboleyn Nov 2013 #160

In my state both parties get arrested if there is not a clear victim. ismnotwasm Nov 2013 #127

Comedian Louie CK on women vs men Beringia Nov 2013 #128

I've been in a relationship with an abusive woman madville Nov 2013 #149

I know a man with a similar situation. no_hypocrisy Nov 2013 #165

Women accounted for 85% of the victims of intimate partner violence, men for approximately 15%. LanternWaste Nov 2013 #154

I expect female abuse of men is more common than we realize BainsBane Nov 2013 #156