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Amaril

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16. Once upon a time........

Fri Mar 9, 2012, 02:01 PM

Mar 2012

....I worked full time (and for a while I had a part-time, weekend job as well) AND was going to school at night AND had a one year old AND got pregnant with my second child near the end of my first / beginning of my second year of school (he was born in July, and I wound up having to delay my last semester of school as a result). I was married, but my husband was career Navy, so he was gone a LOT.

I did it because I felt it was what I needed to do for my family. I struggled for 2 years -- on about 4 hours of sleep a night -- it was rough, but I (and my children) survived it just fine and I have never regretted it..........and I never felt like I was being "screwed" -- it was my choice - nobody made me do it.

If working two or more jobs isn't for you, then don't work two or more jobs, but don't condescend to people who make the choice to do so for themselves and their families. If your friend is being an asshat and talking smack about people who don't live their lives the way she thinks they should.........well, maybe you need to look for new friends that have values and priorities more closely aligned with your own.

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I am so sick of people that think it's ok to work 3 jobs. [View all] ceile Mar 2012 OP

If she thinks it's OK to work 3 jobs Dreamer Tatum Mar 2012 #1

Great idea to work 3 jobs. Somehow I think her child is losing out. southernyankeebelle Mar 2012 #3

Yeah, that was my first thought.......... socialist_n_TN Mar 2012 #42

There should be a happy medium I agree. My daughter-in-law is having a fit because southernyankeebelle Mar 2012 #54

On the other hand... pipi_k Mar 2012 #48

Well it could be. On the other hand I don't think she honestly can give her child the southernyankeebelle Mar 2012 #55

Maybe she can work 4 or 5 if she wants to. Why doesn't everyone work 6 or 7 jobs if they want to? Vincardog Mar 2012 #4

OP didn't say "can't" CreekDog Mar 2012 #29

Because it takes 2 jobs away from someone else. Zalatix Mar 2012 #30

Sorry, but that is just... JSnuffy Mar 2012 #35

It is simply the truth. Or is mathematics an evil, wrong thing? Zalatix Mar 2012 #36

"sarcasm" ? FLyellowdog Mar 2012 #2

You see something wrong with people working multiple jobs to better themselves sinkingfeeling Mar 2012 #5

That wasn't my take. It's more about being a workohaulic by "necessity" due to the plutocrats Populist_Prole Mar 2012 #9

Well no of course not. ceile Mar 2012 #10

True however the system should be far more supportive of a mom trying to better life azurnoir Mar 2012 #14

In principle nothing I suppose however what is wrong is a system azurnoir Mar 2012 #11

You see nothing wrong with workers being exploited by the Plutocrats? Zalatix Mar 2012 #39

I don't think it makes sense to put all that on her Enrique Mar 2012 #6

It says that there's something royally fucked up with the system. Initech Mar 2012 #8

Oh she's not doing anything wrong. ceile Mar 2012 #12

You just hit on the real reason we are still in this mess. RC Mar 2012 #31

No its not ok at however when it comes to Public assistance since the so called Welfare reform azurnoir Mar 2012 #7

Kid is 13. ceile Mar 2012 #15

Thats good she and her kid are lucky in that respect azurnoir Mar 2012 #17

Exactly. ceile Mar 2012 #21

That mentality still exists today laundry_queen Mar 2012 #53

I'm sick of people dems_rightnow Mar 2012 #13

Once upon a time........ Amaril Mar 2012 #16

You really missed the point. ceile Mar 2012 #19

I totally get what you're saying! I'm old enough to remember when employers paid a living wage and jemsan Mar 2012 #18

Here's a link to explain what minimum wage salaries should really look like. jemsan Mar 2012 #20

Thanks for the link. ceile Mar 2012 #23

Good for her... JSnuffy Mar 2012 #22

I'm not dengrating her. ceile Mar 2012 #24

Then edit your OP... JSnuffy Mar 2012 #26

The OP is sick of people who think that's the solution for everyone jeff47 Mar 2012 #27

Then the wording of the OP should change. nt Dreamer Tatum Mar 2012 #32

No. I've already clarified my point. n/t ceile Mar 2012 #34

No. I've already clarified my point. n/t ceile Mar 2012 #33

Hey mon... Edweird Mar 2012 #25

You're getting attacked in this thread but I understand completely what you're saying and I agree. Maven Mar 2012 #28

Exactly. One job that provides a fair wage. Blame the 1% for taking that away. Zalatix Mar 2012 #38

exactly... but some don't want to ADMIT it is exploitation fascisthunter Mar 2012 #45

You seem to be conflating doing something by choice with needing to do it slackmaster Mar 2012 #37

Your friend must've ben listening to too much trash talk radio. alp227 Mar 2012 #40

Saying '3 jobs' is vague. Saying how many total hours someone is working would be more clear. Tx4obama Mar 2012 #41

That's what I was thinking. It's not the # of jobs, but # of hours worked that counts. nt Honeycombe8 Mar 2012 #46

She can work 12 jobs for all I care. bigwillq Mar 2012 #43

How does she have time? treestar Mar 2012 #44

It's "uniquely American". mmonk Mar 2012 #47

Fewer and fewer people remember when an "at home Mom" wasn't a luxury item. annabanana Mar 2012 #49

Well, like a couple of others pipi_k Mar 2012 #50

Some amazing responses here malthaussen Mar 2012 #51

If someone is working so many hours a week that they are too exhausted to drive safely undeterred Mar 2012 #52