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Edweird

(8,570 posts)
40. What I believe about myself counts for little in my relationships.
Fri Mar 9, 2012, 06:56 PM
Mar 2012

In fact, holding the belief that I am 'universally beloved' and 'the life of the party' - despite all evidence to the contrary is actually delusional as I understand it. I'm more-or-less a loner due to who I am as a person. No amount of 'Stuart Smalley-esque' affirmations can change that. I am a terrible liar so any attempt at deception is wretchedly transparent and ultimately unbearably creepy. I am who and what I am.

You're clearly over-analyzing what I've said. I 'over share', for example, by saying what I really think instead of what I 'should' or talking about my sordid, perverted sexually deviant private life with my co-workers when more discretion is certainly wiser. I'm not doing it out of some 'need to avoid my own thoughts', but because I really don't give a f@ck what they think. I am who and what I am and I'm big enough to own it.

"And, any mate not concerned for your welfare in the face of life's fragility is of questionable value" I have no idea what you are referring to. You're right, of course, but I don't understand what that is a response to. Was it just an independent thought?

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I hope you are as happy as I read. Festivito Mar 2012 #41
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