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In reply to the discussion: With all the anti-pornography talk, can we have a sex positive thread? [View all]LadyHawkAZ
(6,199 posts)attacking not just staged rape porn (which is understandably upsetting to some) but the entire idea of porn and the ability of the women involved to consent to it. Not some of them who might be enslaved, but ALL of them. Just the women. Never the hetero men, never the gay men, just the women. When people start messing with the concept of consent to make a consensual act into a non-consensual one to suit themselves, that's anti-sex, whether the person saying it enjoys whatever sex they personally have or not. There is no other way to spin it. The fact that it's only ever directed at the female participants makes it slut-shaming as well.
Sex-positive thought involves acceptance of all consensual sex, not just the types that one person happens to enjoy. Placing a narrow limitation on which kinds of consensual acts are acceptable and which are not is not sex-positive. It has zero to do with how much fun they, personally, have in bed, and that's where people seem to be getting confused.
I suspect there are a few here that genuinely don't like sex. I'm perfectly fine with that; people are free to do, or not do, whatever they please with their genitalia without needing my approval for it. Not liking sex or not wanting to have sex is not repeat NOT sex-negativity. However, there is a difference between not wanting to do it themselves and telling others that they can't/shouldn't do it either or are wrong/bad/dirty for doing so. THAT'S the difference between sex-positive and sex negative- it's not in what you like or do personally, but in how accepting you are of others' choices. And yes there absolutely are some here that do that, and I absolutely will shame that attitude wherever I see it. It's RW fundie misogynist bullshit, and doesn't belong on a liberal and theoretically feminist board. Period.