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In reply to the discussion: With all the anti-pornography talk, can we have a sex positive thread? [View all]LadyHawkAZ
(6,199 posts)As noted above, there were people in the rape porn threads, as there have been in every porn thread, insisting that all porn actresses (never actors, only actresses) are non-consenting and completely warping the concept of consent to do so. It's blatant misogyny, and I have great big huge issues with it, which is why I keep turning up in these threads.
I re-read the thread again just to be sure- I saw no one shaming the personal sexuality of the anti-porn crowd. The OP itself was expressly about those passing judgement on other people's sexual choices, and so were the responses supporting it. No one actually seems to care if 1) you or anyone else personally like sex or 2) you or anyone else personally like porn, BDSM, oral sex or anything else. Nobody cares, so long as that personal preference is not being used to shame the preferences of others. If it seems to you like the term "sex-negative" is being used to shame that particular attitude, that's because it is. It's a right-wing attitude and deserves the call-outs just like any other right-wing attitude would. I said that in my first response to you above. If people choose to conflate attacking a particular attitude toward other people's sexuality with attacking the sexuality of the people saying it (which is exactly what's happening), that's their problem. It's not what is actually going on.
It's not repeat NOT a personal attack on the personal sexuality of the people involved, any more than using "anti-choice" is a personal insult on a person's personal breeding decisions. Attack on an opinion, yes. Personal attack, no.