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In reply to the discussion: What sexual acts do you consider to be violent? [View all]seabeyond
(110,159 posts)36. we also oppose the abuse of the lack of voice. with this one issue, we throw them under the bus
for our own wants. no more or less than a republican with greed.
you have two needs fighting each other. the need to protect all those millions without consent, or voice. and the need to do whatever in our sexuality. they oppose one another.
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On a practical level, that has to be it. Otherwise you really are butting into people's bedrooms.
nomorenomore08
Nov 2013
#225
on a counterpoint, if people want to film what they do in their bedroom and share with others
loli phabay
Nov 2013
#230
Things that cause more pain than pleasure. Of course, that's very subjective.
LuvNewcastle
Nov 2013
#3
"that was violence on par with rape" that would fit the definition of violent if intent was to hurt
seabeyond
Nov 2013
#72
no. i did not say that. intent to hurt, then violent. consent or not, doesnt matter. and no
seabeyond
Nov 2013
#76
i do not get why the definition of violence is so hard. intentional hit in face = violence. violence
seabeyond
Nov 2013
#79
who said you could not have it. if you want violence inflicted on you, go at it haus. STILL
seabeyond
Nov 2013
#86
hey. so we throw away the dictionary cause we have to self define in order to do something? really?
seabeyond
Nov 2013
#94
because we choose to blur the definition of words so we can easily swallow something. rape, violence
seabeyond
Nov 2013
#99
again, thank you for the back up reinforcing my point. of course violence includes and goes
seabeyond
Nov 2013
#101
Who the fuck is anyone to say some biting or a kickass spanking is unnatural?
bobclark86
Nov 2013
#207
What does 'we've seen studies come up' mean? What 'studies'? Where? Did they 'come up' or
Bluenorthwest
Nov 2013
#7
Hmmm....holding the door to the bedroom open for someone might be bad
The Straight Story
Nov 2013
#13
so, alone in a room with a man, pressuring her, the more she says no, the more pressure, until....
seabeyond
Nov 2013
#21
I think what you are describing is a predatory asshole. You might be right that someone can be a
el_bryanto
Nov 2013
#26
I don't disagree with you - I think trying to define the exact border between rape and non-rape
el_bryanto
Nov 2013
#60
There are different types of abuse. Violence is the imposition of one's will upon another.
Voice for Peace
Nov 2013
#96
Why this sudden zeal on DU to get others to accept violence as acceptable sexual expression?
Skidmore
Nov 2013
#15
we also oppose the abuse of the lack of voice. with this one issue, we throw them under the bus
seabeyond
Nov 2013
#36
you and others want to shut this conversation down with religion/morally wrong. that is not where
seabeyond
Nov 2013
#44
I don't want to shut down any conversation - and I apologize if I give off that aura
el_bryanto
Nov 2013
#46
in ALL my life, my line is never to purposely hurt another. i figure i am pretty safe
seabeyond
Nov 2013
#50
except someone in the thread already put that up... and i stated yes, that would be violence.
seabeyond
Nov 2013
#131
does the definition of violence = illegal? do you see all violence as criminal behavior?
seabeyond
Nov 2013
#157
you are wrong. ONE post, where anywhere i have even kinda suggested. you make up bogus fuckin
seabeyond
Nov 2013
#161
bullshit. they are absolutely redefining violence. the basis is they do not want
seabeyond
Nov 2013
#197
do you THINK when i say academia describes invasive surgery as violent on the body i am
seabeyond
Nov 2013
#184
And how did you get all that from "they have issues"? Seems an enormous leap... n/t
nomorenomore08
Nov 2013
#228
if its not your kink dont do it, but what you describe is part of a lot of peoples sex life
loli phabay
Nov 2013
#231
I guess for some it really is pleasurable. And I don't feel it's my place to judge.
nomorenomore08
Nov 2013
#232
so much in your post but addressing this. can always call them prudes, sex negative, shame them....
seabeyond
Nov 2013
#25
sticking a huge dick in the mouth and aggressively pumping causing massive pain. is that violent?
seabeyond
Nov 2013
#45
what a prude. you guys can defend this shit 'til cows come home, but cant say it outloud? lmFAO
seabeyond
Nov 2013
#175
I understand you. And it's why I give these threads a wide berth. I'm not down on Sea, but there is
freshwest
Nov 2013
#239
many seems to be clueless, amazingly. only with sex acts. ask what consititute violence in films
seabeyond
Nov 2013
#54
suddenly everyone is all fuzzy on the definition of violence, simply because it is
seabeyond
Nov 2013
#59
from the very start of the post. you ignore what i posted to you and fabricate an argument
seabeyond
Nov 2013
#63
ya. giving definition of violence is absolutely sexually negative. or honest anyway. nt
seabeyond
Nov 2013
#89
you need to understand one is intentionally hurting for one or both to get off is STILL
seabeyond
Nov 2013
#83
But should it be condemned simply because it meets the strict definition of "violence"?
nomorenomore08
Nov 2013
#234
no. you did not. the definition of violence is pretty easy to find. that simple. that is the ONLY
seabeyond
Nov 2013
#71
it absolutely is intended to hurt. now, it is done concentually. that pain is wanted. the intent
seabeyond
Nov 2013
#109
no. no arbitrarily involved. hurt intentionally to inflict pain to gain pleasure. simply.
seabeyond
Nov 2013
#112
Yes, if you two haven't previously agreed that he may pressure you to have sex
KitSileya
Nov 2013
#74
I would put sex in a different category from most any other task done in a relationship.
KitSileya
Nov 2013
#118
It's amazing how many liberals turn into prudish freepers when the topic turns to sex.
Xithras
Nov 2013
#140
it's amazing how many when talking about their sex life cannot even mutter the word violence
seabeyond
Nov 2013
#143
so what? people get off on it. it is still violence. this is fuckin amazing. nt
seabeyond
Nov 2013
#169
Whether it's "violent" is irrelevant. It's the motivations that are important.
Xithras
Nov 2013
#190
My answer may not have been literal, but my meaning wasn't. Consensual sex is never violent.
Xithras
Nov 2013
#211
Yup."Pretend" porn violence should be banned.If pretend sex is imagined as real, so is the violence.
ancianita
Nov 2013
#127
violence toward the body yes and i have even heard academia discuss invasive surgeries as
seabeyond
Nov 2013
#155
no one.... NO ONE said anyone should go into jail with a consented violent act. NO ONE.
seabeyond
Nov 2013
#189
A lot of people in the thread about David Cameron's "rape porn" ban supported exactly that.
backscatter712
Nov 2013
#194
Who cannot discern violence or its simulation? Do we have a problem with detecting it in NON-porn?
WinkyDink
Nov 2013
#129
anything against someone's will. aside from that it's really not my business
La Lioness Priyanka
Nov 2013
#135
really? whipping leads to sex or part of the act, but not violent? you explain.
seabeyond
Nov 2013
#144
when acting you are not really grabbing the hair and yanking, causing pain. if they really do that
seabeyond
Nov 2013
#171
unacceptable violence, acceptable violence. with boxing it is violent. but it is acceptable violence
seabeyond
Nov 2013
#145
So who draws the line between "acceptable" and "unacceptable"? Someone like Ken Cuccinelli?
backscatter712
Nov 2013
#149
wtf? a question was ask on what violent sex is. who the fuck cares what that dude is saying?
seabeyond
Nov 2013
#151
I bring him up because it's people like him who will be drawing the line.
backscatter712
Nov 2013
#159
there is NO line. there is a WORD. violence. what is the definition. what are the violent acts
seabeyond
Nov 2013
#164
Definitely was exactly that! It was a homophobic bigoted poster count of 3 passing through. n/t
RKP5637
Nov 2013
#188
For me that would certainly be the case. In fact, I'm sure I'd stop long before that point.
nomorenomore08
Nov 2013
#238
One who, seeking happiness, harms, oppresses or kills another being commits violence if
flvegan
Nov 2013
#235