My wife thoughts on the whole Rape culture and porn debates she has seen on DU [View all]

[diabeticman]

This is a rant I heard her "give" when talking to a friend of hers so some is paraphrased but the ideas are there.


Let me also say that she was raped as a teenager. She often has told me Rape isn't really about the sexual aspects but the idea of power and control of a person.


She explained/ranted:


Two consensual people role playing during sex doesn't need to be regulated we have a larger problem in this country. This country has a power hungry culture and a disrespecting culture and we have to stop looking at it as individual issues and looked at it for the large problem we have.

We have this idea in this culture that we are always right and no one deserves to be in control like "we" do. I don't mean everyone in this country but there is a large majority in this country who needs to control something in some way shape or form- be it a legislator holding up a bill because he doesn't like the president or the majority in charge or owner of a business treating her workers poorly because she like to see people suffering or a man abusing a woman sexually physically or mentally even a woman abusing a child in the above ways.

Until we can start admitting we have this power need we will never be able to truly progress to a better culture.

More and more we are seeing all aspects of power going to people's head. Like the cop who is using force for a traffic stop or christian fundamentalists trying to force their religious belief on others.

And until we learn to curve this need we will see ourselves digress further into this nightmare. We need to stop dividing the bigger issue into smaller chunks and giving them names. Culture of rape culture of race-hatred. We need to start teaching that it is NOT okay to disrespect and control ANYONE even if you have the money, authority, or ability to do so. We need to start seeing one another as being equal to ourselves AND perhaps we need to start looking at each other as the mirror of ourselves.

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I hope no one is offended by my wife's words I felt the need to share them.