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In reply to the discussion: What sexual acts do you consider to be violent? [View all]KitSileya
(4,035 posts)Then that is consent given under pressure. Consent given under pressure is not freely given. Have you two had a conversation where you have agreed that when you are reluctant to have sex, he may pressure you (always with an underlying safe word that will immediately make him back off if you really don't want sex) then you have given your consent to be pressured.
Unfortunately, many many men and women have not, and have spouses that nag/pressure/guilt them into having sex when they don't really want to. "You don't love me anymore. " "I'm a ____, and a ____ has needs. If you don't provide, I may as well find someone who does." "I did X for you....." even tho' X was done without any agreement for sex as recompense.) Especially if it is coupled with other abusive or near abusive behavior, it can cause trauma in the partner pressured, usually only realized post-relationship.