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In reply to the discussion: What sexual acts do you consider to be violent? [View all]Xithras
(16,191 posts)Reread that last paragraph, because it's the important one. If you can't understand what I'm saying in that paragraph, then you're simply beyond understanding the motivations of the entire BDSM community.
But, to put it another way:
Two men square off. One punches the other.
In scenario #1, two men enjoy boxing. Both walk into the ring, and one hits the other because that's what the person being struck WANTED.
In scenario #2, one man is holding money that he just pulled from the ATM. The other wants it, so he hits him.
Fundamentally we're talking about the exact same violent action in the two scenarios, but consent and motivation make all the difference between one being "acceptable" and the other being "unacceptable". It is motivation and status of consent, and not the physical action, that is important when deciding whether something is "wrong".
You seem to be hung up on the physical activity itself, which is the worst possible way to judge the actions of others.