We need to teach our daughters to know the difference between:

[ancianita]

38. Yes, I certainly see that; doesn't mean that it's not more true than not. Maybe you're talking about

men and women, but I'm trying to stick to males and females still wards of their parents.

I'm not trying to push an essentialist line here about genders, and I did explicitly state that those things are commingled within every human. But I only put the saying out there as one that I've heard that might offer a shorthand for tendencies or the complexities of stuff that happens between genders for a long formative while. Sometimes young people like to operate with a kind of shorthand, and save all the complexity talk for besties and all nighters. It's a saying that's easily discardable as one grasps all kinds of experience and boundaries, but it might just be something as useable as a list of stuff on a poster. I won't defend it. If you think we all should discard it here, be my guest.

I'm not endorsing it for the adult world, but when kids are sorting stuff out, that's what I've heard them say. If you want to sit them down and tell them what you told me, that's admirable and fine by me.

Kids' lives with opposite genders tend to get away from parental influence fairly early, so if all this stuff's going to be learned, it's got to be early and often.