Married Ladies: Don't Quit Your Day Job -- Ever

[JustAnotherGen]

37. I will have to find the article

That speaks more to me than this. . . this is for those who get an MRS. immediately after their B.A. / B.S. or in tandem.

It's great advice for a 22 year old wide eyed young woman - but . . .

For those of us that marry later, with our own assets, wealth, and advanced careers, etc. etc. I would say a little diffferently. Go part full time NOT because you EXPECT a failed marriage -

But because you don't want to lose your edge or have some woman re-entering the workforce sucker punch you from behind.

I have friends my age married and divorced. Three of the 9 divorced women actually stated they could Always Get Divorced prior to getting married 12, 26, and 30 years ago.

But those in my circle like me - who waited and made sure, turned down proposals, ran for the hills from scrubs - we married with one intent. Till death do us part. Seriously- when you give up your traveling, monied, lifestlye for domestic ball and chain at 38-43 - it's like a radical change in lifestlye for women. And we make this decision EXTREMELY carefully because well . . .

We have a lot more to lose than some 22 year old kid.

Sort of rambling - but it speaks to an expectation that we all got married and settle down at a very young and naive age -

But some of us lived big first - and our precautions are very very much different.