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pipi_k

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49. Not just keep the day job, but...

Mon Dec 2, 2013, 01:38 PM

Dec 2013

get an education that will enable them to support themselves and whatever children they might have, should the marriage end.

That is something that Mr Pipi stressed time and again with his 3 daughters, all of whom don't just have JOBS...they have careers that are pretty much recession-proof for the most part.
They don't NEED a man to support them. If they lose their husbands through widowhood or divorce, they have the means to support themselves.

And if they had married abusive men (which they didn't), they wouldn't feel they had to stay because they had no other choice.

This in stark contrast to something my (born in 1934, became a 1950s housewife) mom said to me when my own daughter wanted to quit school at 16. Her response to that was, she doesn't need to go to school...she can get married.

Well, as many of us have probably seen, that doesn't always work out very well.

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Married Ladies: Don't Quit Your Day Job -- Ever [View all] mfcorey1 Dec 2013 OP

sorry, I think this is huge cartload of crap. cali Dec 2013 #1

Even though some women will never let this happen, some will. I think the mfcorey1 Dec 2013 #2

I was about to say that until ... LisaLynne Dec 2013 #3

Nope, unfortunately some of us were dumb enough to do this - TBF Dec 2013 #6

I was a wee bit younger when I returned. MissB Dec 2013 #15

That's a good idea - TBF Dec 2013 #25

I think it's real, but measuring how big of a problem it is, population-wide is problematic. AtheistCrusader Dec 2013 #9

Here's an article describing the Fox commentator's "inspirational" comments spooky3 Dec 2013 #13

How so? LisaL Dec 2013 #14

Agree. 100% blueamy66 Dec 2013 #55

My advice Sienna86 Dec 2013 #4

There is also the scenario in which xulamaude Dec 2013 #47

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I never looked at it that way Major Nikon Dec 2013 #11

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I was raised during the same time period Major Nikon Dec 2013 #21

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"Contributing financially to the marriage and family equalizes the relationship." mac56 Dec 2013 #16

Even if you never break up, relying on a single income is one of the most dangerous-- eridani Dec 2013 #7

It's a lot more dangerous if you are single and you have your job kicked out from under you duffyduff Dec 2013 #38

I've been there for 12 years now... magical thyme Dec 2013 #43

The thing is the author of the piece apparently read "The Cinderella Complex," duffyduff Dec 2013 #46

my career was stolen when I was 48... magical thyme Dec 2013 #64

Just to be clear, right to work is not "at-will" employment duffyduff Dec 2013 #65

Very true. Even in retirement if one of you dies, the other loses the extra SocSec check eridani Dec 2013 #58

My goal is to want to be as independent as possible but now am forced to live with relatives. duffyduff Dec 2013 #60

I agree that it's important for women to keep doing something in the form of Sheldon Cooper Dec 2013 #8

I agree. For all the reasons respondents to this thread have pointed out. Triana Dec 2013 #10

The author is a licensed therapist. Still Blue in PDX Dec 2013 #12

She became a licensed therapist after her divorce. LisaL Dec 2013 #17

These are the statements that struck nerves. Still Blue in PDX Dec 2013 #57

She sounds like a one-percenter without a clue. duffyduff Dec 2013 #61

My parents, who both worked, gave me this advice: ellie Dec 2013 #18

My mother gave me that advice (not my father) SharonAnn Dec 2013 #27

The problem is an employer can take it all away. duffyduff Dec 2013 #62

I have been telling my TBF Dec 2013 #26

Wow. I couldn't agree less. kag Dec 2013 #20

What happened to her writing career? mainer Dec 2013 #22

I think it's rather obvious that not everybody can make it as a writer. LisaL Dec 2013 #24

But she got to pursue a possible writing career mainer Dec 2013 #28

Very few people can without a trust fund or some other source of income like a spouse duffyduff Dec 2013 #63

Ding ding ding! Winner! cleanhippie Dec 2013 #35

Good advice. It would also help to close the pay gap. n/t lumberjack_jeff Dec 2013 #23

Okay -- my 2 cents worth GladRagDahl Dec 2013 #29

Solving boredom. ConcernedCanuk Dec 2013 #50

Agreed! Marrah_G Dec 2013 #53

It should say: "Married ladies, don't just sit on your tush." mainer Dec 2013 #31

Someone was dumb enough to do this in the 1990s???? kestrel91316 Dec 2013 #32

I've been stuck in low-paying jobs for a while now, when I am employed, but my TwilightGardener Dec 2013 #33

Everybody should decide for themselves. HappyMe Dec 2013 #34

It seems to me her bigger problem Ms. Toad Dec 2013 #36

I will have to find the article JustAnotherGen Dec 2013 #37

My husband and I were married at 18 yo..47 years ago... Partnership in all it's definitions is... Tikki Dec 2013 #44

I think we need an offshoot thread JustAnotherGen Dec 2013 #56

Put Mr. Tikki through College with a slightly above minimum wage job and his GI benefits�something.. Tikki Dec 2013 #59

Even if you have a job or a "career," that's utterly NO guarantee duffyduff Dec 2013 #39

So she is unhappy with her career choices. aikoaiko Dec 2013 #40

This is very good advice in today's brutal capitalistic world SpcMnky Dec 2013 #41

I am pro-choice on this issue. Nye Bevan Dec 2013 #42

Me too - there are so many ways to structure a family. polichick Dec 2013 #51

Good point treestar Dec 2013 #45

Divorce isn't the only thing to consider. Silver Swan Dec 2013 #48

Not just keep the day job, but... pipi_k Dec 2013 #49

Hah! I was a stay-at-home dad and free-lancer. Works wonders for employability. hunter Dec 2013 #52

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