Today has been the worst day of my life

[mstinamotorcity2]

96. Stop beating up on yourself at this very minute.

Last edited Sat Dec 7, 2013, 06:00 PM - Edit history (2)

I realize you are in your pain. But the first thing you must do is stop blaming yourself for another persons actions. You cannot make a person respect you or your marriage if it is not what they want to do. It is how you handle the situation that will show what your true character is made of. you have two small sons who will need extra love and understanding from their mom. Yes this shit hurts like hell, but you can do this. The strength of a good person or parent runs deep. You just need to go to the Well of love and pull some up for yourself. I understand that when you love someone you expect that they feel the same way. He may. People do have affairs. Doesn't make it right but it happens. This may not be the one for you. Instead of focusing on the hurt and pain, focus on moving forward. Yes you will cry. Yes you may lose weight. Yes you will hurt. But as you take steps to healing and finding yourself, you will find recovery. You will find strength that lets you know you and your children are Worthy of a love that respects the love you give. Humans have flaws. If your husband was any other man you would shake your head. It is those that we let get close that can hurt us the most. You want to save your Marriage. Just be sure you are up for the fight. And ask yourself will you spend the next 20 years wanting someone who doesn't want you. This is no longer about HIM. It is about YOU. Get an attorney. Seek counseling for you and your children. Don't forget to charge it to his Health Care Plan. If you don't have insurance or money for an attorney, check with Legal Aid for attorney and Community Health Department for low cost or free counseling. And start Trusting yourself with Your eyes Open. Or you could do this