I was raped this week, ask me anything

[lumberjack_jeff]

167. I'm sure it's not an easy decision.

A person on the sex offender registry "at high risk of reoffending" was hired at a workplace of someone close to me. I learned this because it was in the local newspaper.

I asked a friend in the justice system to tell me what they could of the circumstances. They said that he was convicted in another state of performing oral sex on a man he met in a bar after going to the victims apartment. Both had been drinking heavily and the victim apparently woke up during the act. The perp spent some time in prison - I think two years.

He was asked at work to explain what happened and he corroborated what the public record stated, and added that as a result of what happened, he no longer drinks or takes any kind of drugs, and moved out of the state to start over. The person who works with him describes him as "a super nice guy" and a good co-worker.

You described the rapist as a bartender who supplied you with free drinks. I personally think that this is a factor which suggests reporting may be appropriate, because you may not be the first and you may not be the last.

The legal consequences of rape are very high, and your comments suggest that those severe consequences may be part of the reason for underreporting.

I'm sorry this happened to you and I think that you should get help to sort it out and make a rational decision.
... from someone who won't pressure you into doing something you don't want to.

I read this and realize that I've probably been no help whatsoever.