Today has been the worst day of my life

[gulliver]

121. He has no idea what he is asking for.

If one or both of those kids goes south, it is on him. You should try anything to avoid getting a divorce when you have young kids. Positive Psychology teaches us that people who think they can get out of a commitment are unhappier living with it. Your husband needs to know there is no way out but forward. No kids, no problem. But once you have kids, your life is a one way street surrounded with electrified barbed wire.

Get couples therapy. Your husband won't believe anything you say, but he needs to do couples therapy for the kids. He needs to hear what he might be getting all of you into and what he is losing out on. He needs to know that someone besides you has warned him.

If he doesn't stick it out after that, make sure the kids are taken care of while they are small. Make sure they form good study habits and make sure you spend time together. Form relationships. They won't raise themselves. If you do, I think you will have a rewarding life, although it will be more difficult. You will grow and find someone else.