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In reply to the discussion: American men’s hidden crisis: They need more friends! [View all]Major Nikon
(36,925 posts)6. Seems to draw a lot of conclusions that have alternate explanations
The idea that men want the same level of intimacy from their friends doesn't necessarily mean they want that from their male friends. As the author pointed out, "If a man does have a confidant, three-quarters of the time its a woman, and theres a good chance shes his wife or girlfriend." A far more simpler explanation is that men have different expectations from male friends as opposed to female friends.
The author also was either unaware or failed to point out that depression is most common in middle aged women and is 70% more common with women in general. So the idea that more intimate friendships pays women more mental health dividends later in life doesn't seem to jive with the available data.
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Perhaps a large share of American men do not want to divulge their feelings for fear of the emotions
BlueJazz
Dec 2013
#2
Seems like the media is constantly trying to start a war between Americans, even if the ...
BlueJazz
Dec 2013
#77
I'm a male, and my wife cheated on me. I agree: forgive, maybe. Forget, never. I 100% understand.
tofuandbeer
Dec 2013
#86
My husband has one very good friend who I count as a friend too. But it is different.
CTyankee
Dec 2013
#73
Or maybe women are more likely to get depressed when they don't have close friends
Nikia
Dec 2013
#38
Whoa. I fall right into this category. No family, and with the car accident and associated
Katashi_itto
Dec 2013
#14
"Lifetime Movie Channel friendship" Um, maybe comments like that -about people who have true friend
bettyellen
Dec 2013
#33
because the "feminine model" is actually the "macho" one plus other stuff? stuff that is good for
bettyellen
Dec 2013
#69
same happens to women when they have kids, they still do the bulk of the domestic, social duties
bettyellen
Dec 2013
#34
I think you hit it on the head, I know my brother has had deep troubles with his wife
bettyellen
Dec 2013
#52
they get into entanglements- they just don't sort them out in their minds. they often brood and
bettyellen
Dec 2013
#36
In America, when young poor male friends hang out together...they are called a GANG...nt
Jesus Malverde
Dec 2013
#32
A couple guys I work with retired recently and I was surprised at stories of what buddies they were.
Gidney N Cloyd
Dec 2013
#53
I'm 41 now, and I've noticed that as I've aged, more and more of my friends are female.
Marr
Dec 2013
#83
I notice as I age that my old friends are dying off. These were irreplaceable individuals.
Sognefjord
Dec 2013
#87