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llmart

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48. Me too.

Sun Dec 8, 2013, 11:15 AM

Dec 2013

I am just now realizing that there is such a thing as too much empathy. I put myself and my needs last all of my life and ended up marrying a sociopath/person with narcissistic personality disorder. I was too young to realize that's what he was. I just felt sorry for him because, as was pointed out in another post, he sure could play the pity party. He did that his entire life. Took me a lot of reading and research to figure out that having him in my life was killing me little by little.

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How to Spot a Psychopath [View all] n2doc Dec 2013 OP

mark for later Lil Missy Dec 2013 #1

I had the misfortune of having a sociopath in my life recently ConcernedCanuk Dec 2013 #2

Good book rec. "Without Conscience" By Robert Hare is a good one too. laundry_queen Dec 2013 #7

oh wow! - THAT was one of the books I read! (and studied) ConcernedCanuk Dec 2013 #10

I had a best friend like that in High School. Jazzgirl Dec 2013 #16

No apology needed - by the way ConcernedCanuk Dec 2013 #18

yep, when I ditched my psycho cousin, first thing she did was call all of my friends- bettyellen Dec 2013 #21

Glad you are free. Happened to me and I didn't know he existed. Very scary. applegrove Dec 2013 #20

I survived two of them LadyHawkAZ Dec 2013 #28

I bought this book because I had a sociopath next door womanofthehills Dec 2013 #37

That exactly how she "hooked" me - played the pity card ConcernedCanuk Dec 2013 #40

Turn on the TV. Open a financial section of magazine. Go to Google images and enter 'bankers', Egalitarian Thug Dec 2013 #3

Bankers! Mortgage Bankers. leftyladyfrommo Dec 2013 #4

The only people around them are others just like them. Egalitarian Thug Dec 2013 #5

Right now we are following them into oblivion. leftyladyfrommo Dec 2013 #6

We've forgotten it, but citizen controlled government came about to do just that. Egalitarian Thug Dec 2013 #13

Interesting point laundry_queen Dec 2013 #8

From the site: treestar Dec 2013 #41

"psychopaths tend to be pretty quickly "outed" - that's bullshit. ConcernedCanuk Dec 2013 #46

Of course it is. It flies in the face of the self-evident as well the research that has been done. Egalitarian Thug Dec 2013 #50

Whenever the truth should hurt... Octafish Dec 2013 #9

Throw a dart at FR. rug Dec 2013 #11

Congratulations for not being a psychopath today! Luminous Animal Dec 2013 #12

That makes two of us rucky Dec 2013 #23

Do they know that they are sorefeet Dec 2013 #14

Yes they do, and proud of it. ConcernedCanuk Dec 2013 #32

EXCELLENT book on this Bigmack Dec 2013 #15

I scored an 11: Not a psychopath (Mom will be proud) Tom Ripley Dec 2013 #17

I usually look for the flag lapel pin Viking12 Dec 2013 #19

Fox News is on their TV 24/7. Initech Dec 2013 #22

Sociopathic Ideas are a part of the Right Wing / Modern Republican Party, there's where to start AZ Progressive Dec 2013 #24

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My ex was/is one. darkangel218 Dec 2013 #26

Have to agree 2naSalit Dec 2013 #53

The first sign is declining reponsability darkangel218 Dec 2013 #54

Growing up with them 2naSalit Dec 2013 #56

I took the quiz and... JimboBillyBubbaBob Dec 2013 #27

How to spot a psychopath sounds a lot like how to spot a Republican AZ Progressive Dec 2013 #29

Identifying those around you is half the battle. Cleita Dec 2013 #30

The problem with psychopaths is that they are so good at manipulating... Walk away Dec 2013 #31

I have sometimes used the Lilienfeld PPI-R for forensic evaluations Jackpine Radical Dec 2013 #33

Does it follow from that dipsydoodle Dec 2013 #34

Not pipi_k Dec 2013 #35

I usually figure the fridge full of human body parts is a giveaway Warren DeMontague Dec 2013 #36

It's not so much that... Kurovski Dec 2013 #45

Hang out on Wall Street. Thick. tsuki Dec 2013 #38

So what happens pipi_k Dec 2013 #39

Funny.. I'm just watching Cha Dec 2013 #42

Scored a 2 90-percent Dec 2013 #43

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A 2, for me. polly7 Dec 2013 #44

Me too. llmart Dec 2013 #48

rec'd..... llmart Dec 2013 #49

that pretty much covers most CEOs Skittles Dec 2013 #51

Our sick society offers the very highest rewards for the very worst of human behaviors, Egalitarian Thug Dec 2013 #52

My ex-husband was an interesting combination Blue_In_AK Dec 2013 #55

I think they are the saddest people of all Skittles Dec 2013 #57

Exactly. Blue_In_AK Dec 2013 #58

I believe it's what happens to a child in the first five years Skittles Dec 2013 #59

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I scored a 2. War Horse Dec 2013 #61