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55. My ex-husband was an interesting combination

Sun Dec 8, 2013, 04:45 PM

Dec 2013

of sociopath coupled with generosity and what I think was genuine remorse whenever he'd "lose it," which happened frequently. I suppose the labelers would probably say he had " borderline personality disorder." I'm just glad I don't have to deal with the drama anymore.

Ed. Having said that, I looked up the symptoms for BPD

Signs and symptoms of borderline personality disorder may include:

Impulsive and risky behavior, such as risky driving, unsafe sex, gambling sprees or illegal drug use
Awareness of destructive behavior, including self-injury, but sometimes feeling unable to change it
Wide mood swings
Short but intense episodes of anxiety or depression
Inappropriate anger and antagonistic behavior, sometimes escalating into physical fights
Difficulty controlling emotions or impulses
Suicidal behavior
Feeling misunderstood, neglected, alone, empty or hopeless
Fear of being alone
Feelings of self-hate and self-loathing

It all fits.

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