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hunter

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74. There are so many people who don't care if the whole world sees...

Tue Dec 10, 2013, 01:03 PM

Dec 2013

... or even want the whole world to see them, that there is no damned excuse for the scumbags who share pictures that were never meant to be shared.

Hell, in a case like the OP, simply expel any kid caught sharing the pictures, and the kid of any adult who complains about the pictures. It's none of their business.

Otherwise we are just blaming the victim.

Sure, it's good sense to teach our kids about the very real dangers of our dysfunctional misogynistic society, but it is also our obligation to teach our kids what is right and what is wrong. Sharing private pictures without the subject's permission is just plain immoral and WRONG. There's nothing inherently immoral about sharing private pictures in an intimate relationship.

Misogynistic "boys will be boys" crap should never be tolerated.

Anyone with a functional moral compass knows what is creepy, and what is not.

Having intimate pictures on your cellphone is not creepy. Finding or stealing a cellphone and sharing intimate pictures found on it is CREEPY. Sending intimate pictures of oneself to a person one does not have an intimate relationship with is CREEPY. Sharing intimate pictures of an ex is CREEPY.

Public nudity in a place where it is traditionally accepted is not creepy. Hiding in the bushes with a long lens camera taking photos of nude people is CREEPY.

Walking around your own house nude is not creepy. Peering into windows of houses is CREEPY. Sunbathing nude in your backyard is not creepy. Peering through a knothole in the fence at your nude neighbor is CREEPY.

I'm not entirely casual about nudity. I often get a bad vibe from "National Geographic" and "reality television" style documentaries about traditional cultures. Often the nudity seems gratuitous. U.S.A. native American and Polynesian cultures learned a long time ago that they had to cover up to avoid the leering eyes and shaming glares of priggish white people. Nudity wasn't their problem, it was our white racist society's response to nudity that was the problem.

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Teacher on leave after photos from stolen phone post to revenge porn website [View all] Coyotl Dec 2013 OP

i hope the criminal and bottomfeeder that did this to the woman goes to jail. nt seabeyond Dec 2013 #1

Has anyone been prosecuted for revenge porn? Is it even against the law? Comrade Grumpy Dec 2013 #3

Revenge porn is a tricky legal area. Xithras Dec 2013 #5

selfies are a bad idea, especially right out of the shower snooper2 Dec 2013 #2

Or people who post to revenge porn sites... LanternWaste Dec 2013 #10

I'm thinking it's one of the students thinking it's a "prank" snooper2 Dec 2013 #14

Then maybe she can get a job teaching somewhere where there are no students... LanternWaste Dec 2013 #17

Same school had preciously withdrawn an agreed placement dipsydoodle Dec 2013 #4

Before the administrators cast scorn upon her... LTR Dec 2013 #6

That was my 1st thought. Feral Child Dec 2013 #15

since the word REVENGE is in revenge porn. wouldnt ultimate revenge be to send a link to a womans seabeyond Dec 2013 #16

A possible scenario Feral Child Dec 2013 #29

because it is way more probable than the boss running into it on line. yet up and down the thread. seabeyond Dec 2013 #31

I disagree with your assumption. Feral Child Dec 2013 #37

even if the dude was doing porn, the odds of him, hitting her picture is minuscule. another we DO seabeyond Dec 2013 #41

+1 nt xulamaude Dec 2013 #42

Yes, that's a given Feral Child Dec 2013 #61

Exactly the question I was going to post Matariki Dec 2013 #18

My best guess- a student stole her phone and did it & then told others about it. KittyWampus Dec 2013 #67

Why are school officials visiting porn sites? Hmmmmm..n/t monmouth3 Dec 2013 #7

That was my first thought as well Orrex Dec 2013 #8

Ditto Proud Liberal Dem Dec 2013 #19

I suspect, if an ex-boyfriend posted the pictures to a "revenge porn site," he notified the school� Journeyman Dec 2013 #12

Still, why would they bother looking? Proud Liberal Dem Dec 2013 #20

Maybe they were trolling. Igel Dec 2013 #40

This is true.. pipi_k Dec 2013 #66

What usually happens (as it did at my wife's school) is that a student 'finds' the photo kelly1mm Dec 2013 #76

salon hfojvt Dec 2013 #9

Why did so many people click on this thread in DU, but when a post is Coyotl Dec 2013 #21

No, I clicked on the post because there should be laws against pnwmom Dec 2013 #23

+1 nt xulamaude Dec 2013 #43

Because 'revenge porn' xulamaude Dec 2013 #11

I understand the concept of selfie's mstinamotorcity2 Dec 2013 #13

There should be laws allowing criminal prosecution pnwmom Dec 2013 #22

There is a constitutional right to privacy. Coyotl Dec 2013 #25

That's what I was thinking. I wonder why I haven't heard pnwmom Dec 2013 #30

First rules of being a gentleman or gentlewoman. hunter Dec 2013 #24

First rule of owning a cell phone with selfies, or without them. Coyotl Dec 2013 #36

"on-open contact image so it gets returned" xulamaude Dec 2013 #45

An image appears when you turn your phone on, a background file. Coyotl Dec 2013 #47

Okay - but wouldn't that be xulamaude Dec 2013 #48

It helps you get your phone back when it is lost, 99.99% of the time. Coyotl Dec 2013 #50

I understand the tech and password protect is pretty xulamaude Dec 2013 #53

Stolen vs. lost. Coyotl Dec 2013 #70

Which has been my point all along xulamaude Dec 2013 #71

My cellphone and my laptop are pre-camera age. hunter Dec 2013 #49

Exactly: "The people who are suffering here are the victims of this society's misogyny ..." Coyotl Dec 2013 #52

perhaps because i am totally non photo genic but this whole picture thing has me confused dembotoz Dec 2013 #26

can someone PLEASE tell me Skittles Dec 2013 #27

To send to the person you want to tittilate a bit. Coyotl Dec 2013 #28

and they trust that person to never, ever share the pics Skittles Dec 2013 #32

I think the concept of sending out nude pictures is insane. I would never do it, period. bluestate10 Dec 2013 #54

I thought it was insane 40 years ago Skittles Dec 2013 #59

Yeah - Ms. Toad Dec 2013 #63

Naughty fun. Feral Child Dec 2013 #33

I understand the concept of naughty fun Skittles Dec 2013 #34

Some can. Feral Child Dec 2013 #39

no, no, no Skittles Dec 2013 #60

you are right skittle. even though some of us may want to have fun we dare not cause of the numbers seabeyond Dec 2013 #44

Phone sex was much safer when it was just words. Blue_In_AK Dec 2013 #46

Okay, which school official was surfing porn sites? B Calm Dec 2013 #35

Private school. At-will employer. She resigned and is SOL. n/t duffyduff Dec 2013 #38

"after school officials discovered a nude photo of her on a so-called revenge porn website" Vashta Nerada Dec 2013 #51

The students alerted school officials of the nude photos Harmony Blue Dec 2013 #55

If you don't want dirty pictures of yourself posted on the internet, don't take dirty pictures of AuntFester Dec 2013 #56

They are not dirty pictures. They are nudity. The "dirty" is a mental concept. Coyotl Dec 2013 #57

Obfuscation notwithstanding, I'll bet you know what my point was. AuntFester Dec 2013 #58

We could blame the sad disgusting perverts who posted the pics NuclearDem Dec 2013 #62

The two are not mutually exclusive Kaleva Dec 2013 #69

Not taking anything from the creepy perv who posted the pictures. AuntFester Dec 2013 #75

1. Revenge porn is ugly and I wish it would be prosecuted. kiva Dec 2013 #64

Never do anything in front of a camera pintobean Dec 2013 #65

It's such a simple pipi_k Dec 2013 #68

There are so many people who don't care if the whole world sees... hunter Dec 2013 #74

i liked your other post on this also. that is how i grew up, in that environment. seabeyond Dec 2013 #77

So uhm Christian school officials are trolling revenge porn websites? L0oniX Dec 2013 #72

I'm wracking my brain on this--can somene help me out? Orrex Dec 2013 #73