Men should be offended . . .

[bettyellen]

314. i think it's because lists like this leave women unaware for the more common dangers- and also keep

society politely forgetting to discuss them... that less work is done to tackle the problems. And I also thinks it makes people put it in a separate category where it is not as bad because it might not have been so violent, or it was someone you sort of liked anyway. But you know, the victims often have to continue to live and work along side their rapists because having some sort of "prior relationship" gives the rapist plausible deny ability. These are the rapes that do not get reported, and it's something I think society needs to work on. I think there is a similar thing with missing and exploited children- no one like to talk about how frequently it is a family member or someone close.
So while I think it's good common sense advice for most people, it falls short by really only adressing 25-30% of the problem, likely a lot less than that. And in general, anything that tells you what not to wear (forget if that's the case here) or that women should have to behave markedly different than men is limiting, and offensive in that we are still hearing things like this from judges who blame the victim. In that context, it is maddening.