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beemer27

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83. You responded properly.

Tue Mar 13, 2012, 06:23 PM

Mar 2012

Taking her bitching to FB was a low thing to do. Your response was fair and not insulting. Had you wanted to, it would have been easy to really cut her down. You made your point, and did not lose a friend. Well Done !!
I must however take YOU to task. You called it free health care. I am retired military, and have never considered my military or VA healthcare as free. It is a benefit that I was promised when I signed that dotted line. This is also one of those benefits that I paid for with my youth, and my health. I am not taking offense, as I know that you did not mean to give offense with your choice of words. I do feel that I must mention this, so that in the future it will not be considered free by anyone.
Thank you for posting your experience, and your response. It will certainly cause a few people to reassess their opinions on this matter.

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Alright, I kind of went at it w/ a conservative today. [View all] Narkos Mar 2012 OP

too far???? zipplewrath Mar 2012 #1

Thanks....still a little nervous though! n/t Narkos Mar 2012 #4

BS...Medicare works CAPHAVOC Mar 2012 #29

Nope. It is good and accurate. tabatha Mar 2012 #2

+1 lsewpershad Mar 2012 #49

I'd say you did it just right...not too far at all. CaliforniaPeggy Mar 2012 #3

Thank you Peggy. n/t Narkos Mar 2012 #5

... Lost-in-FL Mar 2012 #98

Too far? No. It's f'ing awesome. n/t lumberjack_jeff Mar 2012 #6

LOL! Thank you! n/t Narkos Mar 2012 #7

Nice way to let them know tinymontgomery Mar 2012 #8

I know that they are talking about raising Tricare fees Narkos Mar 2012 #35

Brava! pinboy3niner Mar 2012 #9

Thank you sir! Narkos Mar 2012 #34

sounded perfect. warrior1 Mar 2012 #10

I have private insurance coverage and couldn't book an eye examine Aerows Mar 2012 #11

thank you!!! newspeak Mar 2012 #148

I told her that live in the private health care arena Narkos Mar 2012 #153

NO! You did NOT take it too far! calimary Mar 2012 #12

Thanks! You made me giggle! N/t Narkos Mar 2012 #18

Spot on! <eom> catrose Mar 2012 #13

Depends on what happens when "it goes in the one ear..." immoderate Mar 2012 #14

Excellent and not too far at all, imo. cbayer Mar 2012 #15

Not far enough IMO mazzarro Mar 2012 #16

Yeah, she private messaged me Narkos Mar 2012 #20

Government take over lolololol all american girl Mar 2012 #25

Yeah, she doesn't realize Narkos Mar 2012 #27

What is hilarious about that is when it comes to the military, does she expect any other than the treestar Mar 2012 #46

"Governmant take over" that made me laugh all american girl Mar 2012 #33

That's like saying "I had to WAIT while they cooked my FREE LUNCH". CJCRANE Mar 2012 #36

Hahaha! I wish I could go back in time Narkos Mar 2012 #51

Is she a military dependent? The government "took over" when her LuckyLib Mar 2012 #50

Yeah, she's a dependent who has actually used WIC before when they Narkos Mar 2012 #87

My brother needing an eye exam is with Kaiser and he got an appt for a misdiagnosis. SleeplessinSoCal Mar 2012 #54

with her pre-existing condition, SemperEadem Mar 2012 #99

I don't think she thinks of herself as a mooch Narkos Mar 2012 #100

for real SemperEadem Mar 2012 #159

We have private insurance onlyadream Mar 2012 #115

I'll translate Skittles Mar 2012 #131

So rrHeretic Mar 2012 #135

Try using Anthem BC/BS for an eye exam druidqueen Mar 2012 #141

I don't know how, or if, you responded to that whathehell Mar 2012 #143

Good point. Didn't want to overload her too much data. n/t Narkos Mar 2012 #152

I also had some issues from recalled contact lenses Aerows Mar 2012 #17

My Thanks Xyzse Mar 2012 #19

Did she say you take politics to seriously? B Calm Mar 2012 #21

No. No. No. Not just no, but HELL no, you didn't take things too far. Zalatix Mar 2012 #22

Thanks! I'm starting to feel better Narkos Mar 2012 #24

Thak you....that was awesome all american girl Mar 2012 #23

I agree that is is getting better Narkos Mar 2012 #26

i don't think you did. barbtries Mar 2012 #28

She said she wasn't trying to offend anyone Narkos Mar 2012 #30

the non apology apology. typical. ejpoeta Mar 2012 #47

Outstanding!!!!! Dan Mar 2012 #31

Yeah you took it too far surfdog Mar 2012 #32

Is "in your face" confrontation the only way to go then? GoneOffShore Mar 2012 #63

It strikes me that this is exactly what the OP describes - crim son Mar 2012 #78

I had no problem with the OP and her response. GoneOffShore Mar 2012 #81

Not far enought. n/t The Doctor. Mar 2012 #37

Too far? You were nothing but respectful when you could have babylonsister Mar 2012 #38

Well done. JoePhilly Mar 2012 #39

I don't have government health care & I still have to wait xchrom Mar 2012 #40

I know, there is this false notion that private means Narkos Mar 2012 #88

It's just so dumb - let's say I go see the DR. & I have some issue xchrom Mar 2012 #96

No, you calmly made a very good point treestar Mar 2012 #41

you did very well. onethatcares Mar 2012 #42

Thank you! Narkos Mar 2012 #45

No you did not go too far. You stuck to the facts in a non-aggressive manner. avebury Mar 2012 #43

This message was self-deleted by its author freshwest Mar 2012 #44

Seems cogent and to the point gratuitous Mar 2012 #48

Excellent! GoneOffShore Mar 2012 #56

true dat renate Mar 2012 #67

Does a "waiver" mean you opt out? "If that doesn't work for me I am to call a different . . . " SleeplessinSoCal Mar 2012 #52

If she can't be seen within a reasonable time frame Narkos Mar 2012 #53

So it's still paid for by the govt. I wonder if she's ever dealt with private insurance.... SleeplessinSoCal Mar 2012 #109

Not far enough. But you did use some pretty big words and advance some fairly abstract ideas. geckosfeet Mar 2012 #55

Yeah, I don't think she will ever understand, but Narkos Mar 2012 #57

Routine vision exams have ALWAYS been low priority pinboy3niner Mar 2012 #74

Excellent, Narkos! I think you laid out the facts gateley Mar 2012 #58

It's funny, I haven't heard a peep from that post Narkos Mar 2012 #89

don't worry about it Narkos Skittles Mar 2012 #132

Thank you. I hope you're right. n/t Narkos Mar 2012 #151

You did just fine. GoneOffShore Mar 2012 #59

Perfect. wakemewhenitsover Mar 2012 #60

Nicely done and with admirable restraint. yellerpup Mar 2012 #61

Well done! Chorophyll Mar 2012 #62

Brava! I use military healthcare and it has literally saved my life more than once. LiberalLoner Mar 2012 #64

Thank you. I appreciate it. N/t Narkos Mar 2012 #66

Not too far... ut oh Mar 2012 #65

Sounded perfect to me. livingonearth Mar 2012 #68

Good and accurate. nadinbrzezinski Mar 2012 #69

Good response! Don't emergency cases take priority over elective exams? Gold Metal Flake Mar 2012 #70

Of course...any emergency gets seen immediately n/t Narkos Mar 2012 #71

Your the hammer that hit the nail square on the head...... Historic NY Mar 2012 #72

I think it's perfect footinmouth Mar 2012 #73

A very measured The Wizard Mar 2012 #75

I get my health care through work abelenkpe Mar 2012 #76

Firm but Fair GeorgeGist Mar 2012 #77

Too Far? Goodness no! Dyedinthewoolliberal Mar 2012 #79

LOL! Well, I really love what I do Narkos Mar 2012 #92

You were too frigging polite. MADem Mar 2012 #80

Hooah! Thank you sir! n/t Narkos Mar 2012 #91

Bravo! GopperStopper2680 Mar 2012 #82

You responded properly. beemer27 Mar 2012 #83

Agreed...nothing is free, however Narkos Mar 2012 #90

Ya done good denbot Mar 2012 #84

It's scary to wait a month for a routine eye exam? mysuzuki2 Mar 2012 #85

I know! Private sector health care is FAR from Narkos Mar 2012 #93

it would be great if some people posted to her BlancheSplanchnik Mar 2012 #140

Thank you. I'm sure I'll run into them Narkos Mar 2012 #154

Beautiful. You never 'hit below the belt' duhneece Mar 2012 #86

Thank you very much! n/t Narkos Mar 2012 #94

On a taking it too far scale of 1-100 DFW Mar 2012 #95

LOL! Narkos Mar 2012 #97

So I guess she would prefer not having any health care or having to pay Cleita Mar 2012 #101

If she is still talking to you WCIL Mar 2012 #102

That is a perfect anecdote to relay to her Narkos Mar 2012 #104

I hope it gets through to her WCIL Mar 2012 #108

One word to describe it........perfect. yourout Mar 2012 #103

you were really nice, rational, and informative noiretextatique Mar 2012 #105

I just scheduled an eye exam for my two kids today. emmadoggy Mar 2012 #106

You can't even see far from there, too far is a few states over. TheKentuckian Mar 2012 #107

Is Kentucky too far? Narkos Mar 2012 #127

I think your response was well-formulated Jackpine Radical Mar 2012 #110

Thank you sir. N/t Narkos Mar 2012 #121

No. You did exactly what should be done. bluestate10 Mar 2012 #111

I can't stop laughing! Narkos Mar 2012 #122

I will trade her Pakid Mar 2012 #112

Haha! I'll let her know ;-) Narkos Mar 2012 #126

Well you make some good points. But I will tell you I have seen both sides of this issue. There southernyankeebelle Mar 2012 #113

No system is perfect Narkos Mar 2012 #117

I can compare it to the times my dad was in the military in the 50s. I remember momma taking us to southernyankeebelle Mar 2012 #136

BRAVO! Aristus Mar 2012 #114

Thanks! Narkos Mar 2012 #118

20 minutes on the phone. What a lightweight. Kalidurga Mar 2012 #116

Agreed...and I followed up w an email and told her that n/t Narkos Mar 2012 #125

beautifully written Tumbulu Mar 2012 #119

Thank you Narkos Mar 2012 #124

some people just like to complain LittleGirl Mar 2012 #120

I appreciate that Narkos Mar 2012 #123

As a former conservative, I think you did amazing. Kennah Mar 2012 #128

I agree, even if she even reconsiders Narkos Mar 2012 #155

No. Pitch perfect. grahamhgreen Mar 2012 #129

you did great, and in a VERY civil fashion Skittles Mar 2012 #130

Not at all davidthegnome Mar 2012 #133

that was an excellent response ibegurpard Mar 2012 #134

You were too kind... MrMickeysMom Mar 2012 #137

If telling it like it is is taking it too far, why yes. You took it too far lunatica Mar 2012 #138

It's too bad she didn't get an apointment to take care of her other problem... beac Mar 2012 #139

That was a homerun. Good job. matmar Mar 2012 #142

Perfect! dash_bannon Mar 2012 #144

Are you kidding me Glaisne Mar 2012 #145

Thank you! Narkos Mar 2012 #156

IMPORTANT!!!!! FROM A DISABLED VET!!! PLEASE READ!!!!! KBlagburn Mar 2012 #146

True! That's the thing... Narkos Mar 2012 #158

This is awesome 47of74 Mar 2012 #147

Absolutely Not lefty16 Mar 2012 #149

I have private insurance--Blue Cross Blue Shield--and I need relatively important surgery Liberal_Stalwart71 Mar 2012 #150

Another anecdote that I will share if I get a chance! Narkos Mar 2012 #157