I want to talk frankly about the south hate here

[Bosso 63]

179. I have deep roots in the north and the south. Its complicated.

I have ancestors that fought for both sides of the Civil war, and I will say that assholes live on both sides of the Mason Dixon line. That being said, people in the North often don't realize how "present" the civil war is in the south. The war is not ancient history to many Southerners.
If you have roots there, you may know exactly where blood was spilled, and often your relationship to it.
In the late 80's, I was driving through Atlanta with a friend of mine from Minnesota, and he made a commented about the number of Confederate flags he saw on cars and said, "Why the hell are these people so pissed?" Well I said, " The Union did burn the city to the ground". That fact was news to him.
On the other hand, I have heard some of my family members say incredibly racist things in a casual way like they were talking about the weather. My attempts to challenge those comments were greeted with the kind of response you would expect if you took a shit in the punch bowl.
Now that live in the North, I have noticed that I still hear racist comments from time to time, but they tend to be more a little more nuanced and covert.