INDIAN AD TURNS THE MALE GAZE BACK ON ITSELF AND IT'S AWESOME

[seabeyond]

136. for those moments, with that look on the face, that is exactly what you are doing. her body is yours

in your mind. and when we look at you and see that look, we know that is what you are doing. it is old. in the grocery store i look up and there the look is from the man across the way. I get out the car and another from the man over there. all the fuckin time.

and there are a lot of men that just go thru their fuckin day not reducing a woman to your position for those moments. it is so night and day clear, that look. i talk to everyone when i am out and about. i am friendly to men all over the place. i will not crack a smile at a man that does that to me. in the past, younger, more intimidated, unsure, inexperienced, i simply lowered eyes, or looked away and let him look. do your thing, get 'er done. i do not lower my eyes or look away any more

i do not need, want or desire a mans validation about my looks. it is none of your business.

just as you, a man, do not need, want, expect women to validate you as a human being, by your looks.

i suppose the woman raised with the belief that her looks is all of who she is in a culture that pushes that at women continually, probably needs it. and maybe the young girl thinks it is nifty the first handful of times. i do not speak for all women. but obviously, it is a big enough issue with women there is a psa about it. we have talked repeatedly on du about it. the women in this thread are all over it.

so you tell me? do we women really need, want, desire, you men to decide whether we look "good' enough for you, thru out our days.