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[MineralMan]

264. No conflict at all. The attraction was mutual between that woman and

me. I wasn't the one that suggested getting together for a little sexual play. She was. People are attracted to whom they are attracted to. That's a constant. If attractions are mutual, which really can't be known without some time spent, then what to do about them can become a question.

For some, any mutual attraction is likely to end up with shenanigans. For others, commitments may set limits. I'm one of the others. I'm monogamous. Now, in my lifetime, I've been serially monogamous, but monogamous throughout.

Casual flirtation doesn't count, really, as long as it's limited. When it begins to be more serious, then a chat is in order. If, as in my case, one of the people has some sort of reason not to take it beyond flirtation, two things can happen. Either the flirtation has to end or it can continue with the recognition of the limitations.

Musical groups and theater groups are commonly associated with mutual attractions between people who may or may not be in other stable relationships outside of the group. In both, people are working closely together, have respect for the others' talents or capabilities, and often meet for rehearsals and the like. I have performed with many musical groups, and there are always couples flirting with each other. Shared interests and proximity sort of leads to that. Keeping it within bounds or not is a matter for the individuals. Little romantic associations are a commonplace in such groups. Usually, they are self-limiting.