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Matariki

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115. You clearly do not understand

Tue Dec 24, 2013, 02:46 AM

Dec 2013

what women are talking about in those threads. If you actually listened, instead of knee-jerk name calling, you *might* understand.

Those threads have nothing to do with *looking* at people you think are attractive.

Is it really this difficult to understand what staring is? Staring is rude. I've had guys stare at me non-stop from a block away and then turn and stare some more after I passed. It sucks. It makes women very angry. It has nothing to do with looking at attractive people. It's hostile, or feels that way to me. And it is very often accompanied by cat calling, unwelcome comments, and outright hostility or threats if ignored. If you are unable to understand the difference between that and a glance or a friendly hello to someone (without any further exceptions from the person) then there is little hope for any discussion with you.

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This will probably do me in, but [View all] Old and In the Way Dec 2013 OP

You think that "may" do you in? el_bryanto Dec 2013 #1

in the name of "calling bullshit to bullshit arguments" fishwax Dec 2013 #2

What a terrible thing to say about someone. ismnotwasm Dec 2013 #3

OK, seabeyond is the most insightful, caring person on DU. Old and In the Way Dec 2013 #68

I apologize to HoF....deeply. nt Old and In the Way Dec 2013 #69

Do you dine at Cracker Barrel quite often? lpbk2713 Dec 2013 #76

Awesome! You totally destroyed me with that riposte! Old and In the Way Dec 2013 #132

oiy Whisp Dec 2013 #4

The first message I got from another member Blanket Statements Dec 2013 #5

feel better about yourself now mercuryblues Dec 2013 #6

Sure, no problemo....that's what DU is all about...say what you feel. Old and In the Way Dec 2013 #71

This message was self-deleted by its author NuclearDem Dec 2013 #7

Who told you the door belongs to you? demwing Dec 2013 #32

My door! MINE NuclearDem Dec 2013 #35

I just think we can all agree demwing Dec 2013 #42

Your door? ReallY? tell me how you really feel, instead of playing bullshit...'kay? Old and In the Way Dec 2013 #74

Before this post gets hidden I would like to say you had me right up until you insulted a specific liberal_at_heart Dec 2013 #8

Don't worry, a jury actually voted to leave that. kcr Dec 2013 #31

Really, why's that? Old and In the Way Dec 2013 #67

No. But because you called an individual member out. Very rudely. Matariki Dec 2013 #73

Really, you've been here long enough to have the number of posts you do kcr Dec 2013 #77

You clearly don't want dialog BainsBane Dec 2013 #134

Because you disagree I assume! Nt Logical Dec 2013 #116

Uh huh! That's the only reason! kcr Dec 2013 #120

Sorry, that particular poster can say males are good lucking and guys "slut shame" Old and In the Way Dec 2013 #78

Yeeesh alcibiades_mystery Dec 2013 #9

Really sad you feel that way. Old and In the Way Dec 2013 #79

"seabeyond is a mother like I'm a sterile old woman" Number23 Dec 2013 #10

That's some seriously disturbing shit right there. JTFrog Dec 2013 #81

Oh well...when you're part of the pack, you'll never get bit. nt Old and In the Way Dec 2013 #82

Don't let the excessive seabeyonding around here scare you off. CFLDem Dec 2013 #11

My time is short... Old and In the Way Dec 2013 #83

Heck at this rate you're probably right. CFLDem Dec 2013 #86

IBTL and IBTTS/MIRT nt stevenleser Dec 2013 #12

Thanks Steve! Old and In the Way Dec 2013 #88

Thanks. I'd prefer you self delete the OP and not be booted. stevenleser Dec 2013 #101

Then why alert before telling him to self delete? Nt Logical Dec 2013 #118

Nope - not a chance Old and In the Way Dec 2013 #121

Go home, you're drunk. n/t winter is coming Dec 2013 #13

Been drunker. Old and In the Way Dec 2013 #89

The problem is you. closeupready Dec 2013 #14

That's it! We've figured it out!DU can now close. Old and In the Way Dec 2013 #91

Thanks for the detailed analysis! nt Logical Dec 2013 #126

.. PowerToThePeople Dec 2013 #15

Thanks...up Old and In the Way Dec 2013 #92

Your post got the response I felt it deserved. PowerToThePeople Dec 2013 #96

Meh, I've been told worse by more informed people. Old and In the Way Dec 2013 #123

Posting in the thread before the hide. Vashta Nerada Dec 2013 #16

huh, apparently not....best to watch though. Old and In the Way Dec 2013 #94

Interestingly, I see this place as allowing a lot of pretty obvious sexism to stand Matariki Dec 2013 #17

Gee, I have a daughter that's trying to make it in this world. Old and In the Way Dec 2013 #63

No one is stopping women here from saying anything they want to say davidn3600 Dec 2013 #105

You clearly do not understand Matariki Dec 2013 #115

no comment, except that quinnox Dec 2013 #18

Quinnox, if you get that you are a very smart person! Old and In the Way Dec 2013 #97

Thanks! Let's just say I was on the same wavelength as you regarding this recently quinnox Dec 2013 #109

What?!? chervilant Dec 2013 #19

Want to see the control? Vashta Nerada Dec 2013 #21

seemingly a topic that DUers care about hfojvt Dec 2013 #93

I think he's upset over a certain type of feminists that are here davidn3600 Dec 2013 #34

Here's a hanky for your outrage....let me flap it in your general direction. Old and In the Way Dec 2013 #100

Best thing I can think A-Schwarzenegger Dec 2013 #20

Not really....but I am so really sick of where DU is going. Old and In the Way Dec 2013 #28

I know youre not my enemy, but A-Schwarzenegger Dec 2013 #36

I'm not happy - I've been here longer than 95% of the posters. Old and In the Way Dec 2013 #48

are you aware of the Ignore function? Skittles Dec 2013 #54

Agreed Yo_Mama_Been_Loggin Dec 2013 #64

I use the "kick ass" function Old and In the Way Dec 2013 #104

that certainly is not the way it came across Skittles Dec 2013 #136

Believe me, your problem here goes WAAAAAAAY beyond politics. A-Schwarzenegger Dec 2013 #62

Oh well, I let my psychiatrist know your prognosis Dr. Schwazengger. Old and In the Way Dec 2013 #108

May this thread look different tomorrow through your hangover A-Schwarzenegger Dec 2013 #112

You aren't affected by "women's issues" personally so you dismiss them as unimportant. Matariki Dec 2013 #70

Give me a fucking brake (as seabeyond would say) Old and In the Way Dec 2013 #111

No but the point is to make you one. zeemike Dec 2013 #65

I am so tired of this. LumosMaxima Dec 2013 #22

+1000000000000000 NuclearDem Dec 2013 #25

Thank you. Habibi Dec 2013 #72

this Matariki Dec 2013 #80

I'm trying to figure out which word to add to my keyword filter. There's an explosion of this. freshwest Dec 2013 #119

Obviously, you folks need more of seabeyond and less of me! Old and In the Way Dec 2013 #23

This message was self-deleted by its author NuclearDem Dec 2013 #24

"ok i'm back" pinboy3niner Dec 2013 #27

No, he never said he was leaving demwing Dec 2013 #38

Beware HoF! A-Schwarzenegger Dec 2013 #26

Hof and Puff and Blow the World Down! Whisp Dec 2013 #45

Here is some hof for you PowerToThePeople Dec 2013 #30

Ignore works great. Vashta Nerada Dec 2013 #33

I see way more complaining about HOF then I do HOF kcr Dec 2013 #44

The stronger the History of Feminism gets, the weaker DU becomes. Really? Matariki Dec 2013 #84

The stronger HOF gets... MattBaggins Dec 2013 #85

I still remember welcoming you to DU. Kurovski Dec 2013 #29

Well, you survived a jury... WorseBeforeBetter Dec 2013 #37

Juror #6... Vashta Nerada Dec 2013 #40

OK, fair enough on your points. But, unless, you are a long timer with a new name, you don't have Old and In the Way Dec 2013 #58

I'm sure a lot of it is trolling. Vashta Nerada Dec 2013 #66

The system works! CFLDem Dec 2013 #43

This is proof that too many DUers don't understand what it means to be on a jury. cui bono Dec 2013 #53

I imagine the admins will be on this one. WorseBeforeBetter Dec 2013 #56

For fucks sake, do you understand how juries work? nt Logical Dec 2013 #122

LOL Skittles Dec 2013 #39

Hope it does! This is some paranoid drivel, to be kind about it. Sad for you. bettyellen Dec 2013 #41

agree... jimlup Dec 2013 #46

WTF does this even mean? JaneyVee Dec 2013 #47

Can we revive the Sasquatch sex and vaginal knitting threads? K.O. Stradivarius Dec 2013 #49

Sasquatch...and sex... I do believe this is the first time I have ever seen those terms next to each quinnox Dec 2013 #52

Here'ya go... Boffed By Bigfoot K.O. Stradivarius Dec 2013 #59

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I find the posters you refer to as quite amusing Riftaxe Dec 2013 #50

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Ignore and trash are your friend. hrmjustin Dec 2013 #55

I've noticed that there's a certain (and alarming) intolerance permeating DU BlueCaliDem Dec 2013 #57

A Merry Christmas to all. progressoid Dec 2013 #61

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Oh man. Now you've done it... quinnox Dec 2013 #90

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*Winces* quinnox Dec 2013 #99

or this d_b Dec 2013 #102

Touch�! quinnox Dec 2013 #107

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don't forget the Frankfurters! eeee! MisterP Dec 2013 #98

that reads like some wingnut posts angry over Duck Dynasty being "persecuted" JI7 Dec 2013 #103

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What the hell does "HoF" stand for? n/t ChisolmTrailDem Dec 2013 #113

History of Feminism rrneck Dec 2013 #127

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What is all this carrying on about - on Christmas Eve?! No Vested Interest Dec 2013 #114

I like seabeyond. ZombieHorde Dec 2013 #117

Me, too. We have also disagreed about stuff, but she rocks. closeupready Dec 2013 #140

How sad for you that your are so easily threatened. BainsBane Dec 2013 #124

look, a meta thread. and callout/attack on me. and the host sit on it. seabeyond Dec 2013 #125

The OP's acknowledged that he's been drinking, seabeyond. pnwmom Dec 2013 #128

Its a patriarchy conspiracy! NoOneMan Dec 2013 #131

Wow, you are really skating on thin ice here. closeupready Dec 2013 #139

It's not the only divisive post in this thread or forum. Vashta Nerada Dec 2013 #141

Really, now the hosts are conspiring against you? Is that your claim? Nt Logical Dec 2013 #135

I don't understand this weird thread. It seems unfair... Jesus Malverde Dec 2013 #137