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tavalon

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149. So many people seem to have lost their spouses to death this year.

Wed Dec 25, 2013, 06:34 AM

Dec 2013

That I lost mine on Dec 17th of last year really pales in comparison to your situation and Mojos. I just lost mine to a midlife stupidity. I pretty sure, almost positive, in fact, that the fact that he still draws air made my transition much easier. I had anger to pull me through and while anger is a part of the grieving process, it isn't galvanizing in that situation.

As an orphan who has lost many (all) of my blood relatives, I have come to realize, for myself, time does heal. I do hope it's the same for both of you and the others who have lost loved ones. It's too bad that the one time life slows to a crawl, is after a horrible loss. That seems like a flaw in the system.

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