So one of my FB frenemies lost their mother today, and this is what he said about her

[magical thyme]

74. this doe not show insight into a teabagger.

as posted above, it shows insight into the raw pain of somebody who grew up abused, and who has just lost their mother-abuser.

Severe abuse by one or both parents -- the people on whom babies and children are totally dependent, and who are their first experience of the world -- is the deepest betrayal and generates a wide range of deep-rooted emotions, any one of which is likely to reappear with significant trigger events. Rage and vindictiveness are just 2 of them.

Personally, I initially felt relief on hearing of my mother's death. I never dreamed of feeling relief or imagined it, nor did I expect it. So it came as a total surprise. Apparently I had carried a knot of fear in my heart for 58 years that finally, instantly released. I didn't even realize that knot was there until it released. I now knew in that moment, right down to my innermost core, that she would never hurt me again. Not ever.

Some years earlier, I'd written a snippet of short story with the main character going out at midnight to dance, sing, piss and defecate on her mother's fresh grave. But I felt absolutely no desire to do that once she was actually dead. For me, my nightmare was finally over.

I'd spent my entire childhood and young adulthood feeling guilty, because she made sure that we all knew it was our fault she abused us because we were so bad we made her do it. Apparently, my decades of guilt resolved, because I haven't felt even a twinge since she passed.

Some of the emotions you are able to work through during their lifetime. Others remain tightly controlled until something or other brings them to the fore.

And it strikes me as mean-spirited to spread that post around, and judgemental to label it as anything other that what it is.