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BlueStreak

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78. I don't know.

Wed Dec 25, 2013, 05:27 PM

Dec 2013

We have no way of knowing where the truth lies. What is clear is that this is a very disturbed person -- beyond the normal grief at the passing of his mother.

The very conservative types tend to have very little empathy -- practically no ability to put themselves in another's shoes. This is the most consistent characteristic of conservatives across the board. The flip side of that is a preoccupation with self.

Maybe it is genetic.

Maybe it comes from an abusive upbringing.

Or maybe this person was always narcissistic, and simply perceived a normal attempt at parenting as being abusive.

We don't know.

In any case, I certainly wouldn't reply to that person on a public forum. If the OPer is close to the person, maybe a personal phone call would be a good thing, but given the description as "frenemy", it doesn't sound like any contact would help at this point.

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So one of my FB frenemies lost their mother today, and this is what he said about her [View all] LaydeeBug Dec 2013 OP

I wouldn't respond BainsBane Dec 2013 #1

I wouldn't respond. elleng Dec 2013 #2

I am so sorry to hear of this elleng. You certainly deserved better, or your familiarity should have LaydeeBug Dec 2013 #21

Surely didn't happen to me, LaydeeBug. elleng Dec 2013 #73

I'm not sure that being horribly abused has any connection to political inclinations. aikoaiko Dec 2013 #3

It gives insight into his spitefulness. Some who suffer thrive on inflicting suffering LaydeeBug Dec 2013 #5

I think its sad NoOneMan Dec 2013 #7

That goes to the heart of it. People who are hateful are often in pain. Instead of being liberal_at_heart Dec 2013 #8

Thank you. Jamastiene Dec 2013 #48

THIS. Me too. I want him to know that should never have happened to him and he deserved to be loved LaydeeBug Dec 2013 #19

Even if you walk a mile in his shoes, & you apparently haven't, you're still not qualified to judge. WillowTree Dec 2013 #14

Why are you saying that I am judging him? Seriously! I am not. thanks. nt LaydeeBug Dec 2013 #17

Your repeated references to his "spitefulness" say otherwise. WillowTree Dec 2013 #22

Oh he is very, very spiteful, and celebrates that fact, so, um�no LaydeeBug Dec 2013 #25

Wishing you some peace of your own. Merry Christmas! WillowTree Dec 2013 #27

Thank you for that, I wish peace for you as well. Happy Holidays. nt LaydeeBug Dec 2013 #28

Here is what I said: LaydeeBug Dec 2013 #26

I've no sympathy for him. I was the product of an abusive childhood. I am ultra liberal Katashi_itto Dec 2013 #41

I understand. WillowTree Dec 2013 #51

Whatever snark you like Katashi_itto Dec 2013 #75

I would not reply to that. Tuesday Afternoon Dec 2013 #4

You're judging somebody for not grieving his abuser in a way you approve of? LeftyMom Dec 2013 #6

Spare me your fucking sanctimony since they posted it in a MUCH HEAVIER trafficked website, LaydeeBug Dec 2013 #10

Oh trust me, I'm judging the shit out of you. LeftyMom Dec 2013 #12

Judge not lest ye be judged. I noticed you wrongly referred to them as my relative�not surprising LaydeeBug Dec 2013 #15

Wish him peace and be done with it... countryjake Dec 2013 #9

That's exactly what i did. I told him he was a survivor... LaydeeBug Dec 2013 #11

i don't get what this has to do with politics , i'm sure there are abused people on both sides JI7 Dec 2013 #13

As I said upthread, it gives insight into his spitefulness. LaydeeBug Dec 2013 #16

not really, even on DU there have been similar comments from people with abusive parents JI7 Dec 2013 #18

I hadn't noticed that at all. But I try to take each thread that I read as it comes, and rarely LaydeeBug Dec 2013 #20

If that wasn't posted on the "PUBLIC" setting at facebook, I'd just delete this thread. MADem Dec 2013 #23

No shit. It's now searchable on Google. Really inappropriate. PeaceNikki Dec 2013 #36

Agree, this should be deleted. tammywammy Dec 2013 #45

This seems to be a rather maliscious OP cthulu2016 Dec 2013 #24

starting with "FB frenemies" Skittles Dec 2013 #29

It's not. nt LaydeeBug Dec 2013 #37

I disagree. It's totally inappropriate to copy and paste this person's words here. PeaceNikki Dec 2013 #40

I disagree with that altogether. I also find it off-putting that you don't know what I'm trying to LaydeeBug Dec 2013 #46

You could have paraphrased or summarized the discussion. To C&P is terribly rude. PeaceNikki Dec 2013 #47

and no political slant -just someones pain not worked out for so many years >Maybe now after death lunasun Dec 2013 #68

"Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way." ~ Leo Tolstoy . . . Journeyman Dec 2013 #30

LaydeeBug, please don't be offeneded... joshcryer Dec 2013 #31

I am not offended joshcryer, and I hope you won't be that I disagree with you LaydeeBug Dec 2013 #35

Joshcryer is correct - TBF Dec 2013 #52

Was the writer a step-sibling of yours? pnwmom Dec 2013 #32

If it's a "frenemy" a supportive response could be more painful. joshcryer Dec 2013 #33

Thank you for this post�Upthread I've included my response more than once, so I won't post LaydeeBug Dec 2013 #34

May he know peace now that his abuser has passed... cherokeeprogressive Dec 2013 #38

He responded. Thank GOD it wasn't misconstrued LaydeeBug Dec 2013 #42

What are you asking for? Sheldon Cooper Dec 2013 #39

I am not asking for anything now. I already responded. I won't ignore something because it's 'messy' LaydeeBug Dec 2013 #43

Failing to forgive an abuser isn't spiteful. Codeine Dec 2013 #44

Oh I agree with you, but he is indeed, and in fact, very spiteful�like single mothers should have LaydeeBug Dec 2013 #49

You came here for LEVITY? Levity? You wanted to make light of or poke fun of someone in pain? PeaceNikki Dec 2013 #57

**Never** did I fucking say I wanted to make light or poke fun at him NEVER, but YOUR projection LaydeeBug Dec 2013 #58

Go look up the definition of "levity" and get back to me. PeaceNikki Dec 2013 #61

Go look up context and get back to me. LaydeeBug Dec 2013 #62

ooooooooo, buuuuuuurn PeaceNikki Dec 2013 #64

People who claim the moral high ground should not be standing on a heap of bullshit when they do it. LaydeeBug Dec 2013 #67

Well, that's even more disgusting. C&P'ing his words of pain to make yourself feel better? PeaceNikki Dec 2013 #70

Odd that he's a tea bagger in that he doesn't seem to treestar Dec 2013 #50

OMG! Thank you!!! This is what I thought too�and I don't know how the father was 'stolen' LaydeeBug Dec 2013 #66

By divorcing their father to marry the new husband, and presumably making sure the tblue37 Dec 2013 #85

Question: what are we supposed to pull out of this guys post that applies to teabagger insight ? karadax Dec 2013 #53

This has none to do with political views. nadinbrzezinski Dec 2013 #54

Not to mention taking a private TBF Dec 2013 #56

It was on FB, so not necessarily private nadinbrzezinski Dec 2013 #59

Exactly. nt TBF Dec 2013 #69

How I wish you would have read the thread before jumping to conclusions LaydeeBug Dec 2013 #60

Yup, others are telling you essentially the same. nadinbrzezinski Dec 2013 #65

I don't see how person's political leanings are relevant in this case penultimate Dec 2013 #55

I think bringing his pain here for strangers to unpack is gross. Brickbat Dec 2013 #63

Who needs enemies with frenemies like this????????? lunasun Dec 2013 #71

I'm surprised this is still up. Tacky. n/t tammywammy Dec 2013 #72

this doe not show insight into a teabagger. magical thyme Dec 2013 #74

I don't know. BlueStreak Dec 2013 #78

The best response would be to delete your OP. winter is coming Dec 2013 #76

i do not know what kind of mom she was. i do not know what he endured. i know nothing. seabeyond Dec 2013 #77

I have read posts from people here saying similar things about one or both parents.... ProudToBeBlueInRhody Dec 2013 #79

Sharing that is incredibly tacky. WorseBeforeBetter Dec 2013 #80

Interesting thread AuntPatsy Dec 2013 #81

Two thoughts OmahaBlueDog Dec 2013 #82

Low. Unrec. 840high Dec 2013 #83

His pain. His rage. His grief. Iggo Dec 2013 #84