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121. why do you not address making the statement we say EVERYONE. i would think you were relieved to know

Thu Dec 26, 2013, 06:57 PM

Dec 2013

NO feminist EVER said EVERYONE. but nope, right over the head creating a straw man

since only the men attacking us state we say everyone, why would i not assume that is where youa re getting it from? or, .... did you come up with accusing feminists that we say EVERYONE, when nothing of the like has ever happened, all by yourself.

well, if you want to take credit for fabricating a story to give to feminists on this board, so be it.

i apologiz i assumed you got EVERYONE from the men. since that is where i hear the accusation. and i am sorry i did not challenge YOUR fabrication toward the feminists.

so, do tell me where ANY feminist, at ANY time, stated it was EVERYONE.

since you are in the know.

and before accusing me of offending you, you might want to rethink accusing feminists on du of such an absurdity to include EVERYONE in any argument.

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