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In reply to the discussion: Are the Feminist / MRA Argument Threads a means to "Divide and Conquer" DU - POLL [View all]Matariki
(18,775 posts)I agree, it's frustrating when one's words are twisted. Sometimes it's difficult to know if it's just a misunderstanding, or if the person is deliberately being obtuse - or even trolling. I try to rephrase my post to try and find a way that the other person might understand. I don't mean that they have to agree with me, but it's nice to know that I've at least made my point clearly. If it becomes apparent that the other person has no real interest in understanding, then I extricate myself from the conversation (or get snarky if I'm in that kind of mood).
What I'm trying to say is, if you are being sincere, perhaps instead of having an automatic reaction that you are being criticized, you could try a different approach. Like asking people to clarify, asking if they mean what they are saying as an insult to you or your gender, etc. It might be, and probably is, miscommunication.