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boston bean

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85. Believe me, many sexist things have been said to me, over and over and over again.

Tue Dec 31, 2013, 08:18 PM

Dec 2013

I can remember who they were in general, but trying to link back a specific incident after some time has passed... as I've already explained, I would have to do searches, keep a list or something, cause I wouldn't remember it specifically or to try to search for a link, forget about it. And that just aint worth my time. Plus, sometimes it just isn't worth it to carry all of that all of the time. Take it day by day and do the best you can and fight it when you see it.

Were you trying to be supportive of Xulamaude? or were trying to score some point against a member you really don't like? I think that is putting it mildly, right? So, like I've said before, discuss the issue without making it so darned personal is the best way to go imho.

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Despite what this guy thinks [View all] Pretzel_Warrior Dec 2013 OP

Is it sexist to say that someone is "a dick"? Common Sense Party Dec 2013 #1

good question. he calls guys that throughout his video. Pretzel_Warrior Dec 2013 #3

Not any more pintobean Dec 2013 #17

Only if a feminist says it. Iggo Dec 2013 #136

Technically it is Jamaal510 Dec 2013 #139

Was it necessary to start a new OP? 1000words Dec 2013 #2

yes. because someone got a comment hidden based on again wrong assumptions Pretzel_Warrior Dec 2013 #4

Yeah and Rodney Dangerfield is a paragon xulamaude Dec 2013 #27

That and your generally crappy attitude toward the women at DU Matariki Dec 2013 #34

I have a great attitude toward many women on DU. Cha, sheshe2, sabrina1, and many others Pretzel_Warrior Dec 2013 #133

You just have a crappy attitude. Tick tock. morningfog Jan 2014 #151

So what was your point? BainsBane Dec 2013 #59

so.. "gang tackle" and "gang beatdown" are common phrases you were doing a take off on? bettyellen Dec 2013 #64

I thought that was a ridiculous hide. Waiting For Everyman Dec 2013 #110

Doubling down, really? NuclearDem Dec 2013 #134

so that's 2 points of reference in the past 3 or 4 years Pretzel_Warrior Dec 2013 #137

You mean your ever growing transparency page? NuclearDem Dec 2013 #138

Too fucking funny. You get banned (from yet another thread) and you start a new one. morningfog Jan 2014 #150

He was locked out of the other thread for joking about gang rape. LeftyMom Dec 2013 #5

that's not at all what I was doing, and leave it to you to assume the worst of me Pretzel_Warrior Dec 2013 #6

telling someone they will be "gang-educated" boston bean Dec 2013 #21

I told you that was not my intention and even provided highly Pretzel_Warrior Dec 2013 #38

I posted to you in that thread, long before it was ever hidden. boston bean Dec 2013 #41

It was hidden before I could respond. Pretzel_Warrior Dec 2013 #45

All times 'my time': 12:55 am - gang rape 'joke' complete with xulamaude Dec 2013 #55

Because we have seem your "meanings and intentions" before. Sheldon Cooper Dec 2013 #42

Links to back up your nebulous accusations Pretzel_Warrior Dec 2013 #46

another multiple banned returner. nt Electric Monk Dec 2013 #48

You realize the OP you're defending is a "banned returner," right? cyberswede Dec 2013 #91

LOL, that is funny! boston bean Dec 2013 #108

He is horrible at hiding that. pintobean Dec 2013 #112

What? cyberswede Dec 2013 #113

I was just joking. pintobean Dec 2013 #119

I don't try to hide it. Pretzel_Warrior Dec 2013 #131

Because your excuse reeks of BS. Your pun references bettyellen Dec 2013 #83

Nope. Your knowledge base is too narrow if Pretzel_Warrior Dec 2013 #92

And male privilege has nothing whatsoever xulamaude Dec 2013 #107

Knowledge base my pink ass. The jury knew, and bettyellen Dec 2013 #109

"Clearly room to say there is nothing objectionable about what I said" xulamaude Dec 2013 #67

You are by far the most deserving of the new exile rules. morningfog Jan 2014 #152

This message was self-deleted by its author Waiting For Everyman Dec 2013 #106

Oh FFS... cyberswede Dec 2013 #7

one does not have to agree with and swear to uphold everything in feminist orthodoxy Pretzel_Warrior Dec 2013 #10

Feminist orthodoxy? And what, pray tell, is that? Scootaloo Dec 2013 #101

That's where you don't celebrate Christmas until Jan 7th Glassunion Dec 2013 #114

Okay, xulamaude Dec 2013 #121

Awesome. I wait for July! NoOneMan Dec 2013 #135

Post removed Post removed Dec 2013 #141

that is a really really low blow Pretzel_Warrior Dec 2013 #142

You would be the expert Caretha Dec 2013 #147

A VERY FEW women have made DU a hostile and unwelcoming site Pretzel_Warrior Jan 2014 #174

Dude, I've seen this kind of flame out. You won't be long. morningfog Jan 2014 #153

I agree that was over the line. Just because the OP was a little misguided doesn't mean nomorenomore08 Jan 2014 #163

Whatever disagreements we have here... NoOneMan Jan 2014 #164

I don't think it's demanding too much of you to not make rape jokes NuclearDem Dec 2013 #143

didn't and you are quite aware of it Pretzel_Warrior Dec 2013 #144

Yes you did. NuclearDem Dec 2013 #146

He's heading for a ban anyway. This is some entertaining flaming out. morningfog Jan 2014 #156

Spectacularly so. NuclearDem Jan 2014 #162

I think it was arguably ambiguous at the very least, given the context. nomorenomore08 Jan 2014 #165

After making a gang rape "joke" that was hidden on LeftyMom's thread, you think this is myrna minx Dec 2013 #8

didn't do it. I have already explained that. Pretzel_Warrior Dec 2013 #9

I find your explanation disingenuous, but by all means, please proceed. myrna minx Dec 2013 #12

he says: "a pack of aggressive people looking for the slightest thing to get offended over" boston bean Dec 2013 #19

No, he posts on DU. RC Dec 2013 #122

heck ya! I noticed! LOL boston bean Dec 2013 #123

Maybe people wouldn't get so upset if others didn't try to tell them what they can and can't nomorenomore08 Jan 2014 #166

I absolutely agree. RC Jan 2014 #168

Yeah, the bad mean feminists are the aggressors here. How dare they mention anything that makes nomorenomore08 Jan 2014 #169

This is DU. Are we not on the same side here? RC Jan 2014 #171

I thought you were turning it around to blame somebody else, even though I never singled you nomorenomore08 Jan 2014 #173

If you were dealing with a culture that devalues your gender and facilitates rape NuclearDem Jan 2014 #170

Who around here is denying the disparity problem exists? RC Jan 2014 #172

"pack of aggressive people" NoOneMan Dec 2013 #149

So basically because you don't like it = it's bad? Glassunion Dec 2013 #11

I stated pretty clearly what I found wrong with it. Pretzel_Warrior Dec 2013 #13

So was there anything in the video you disagree with? Glassunion Dec 2013 #31

You think there is an enlightened discussion to be had with people who treat women like this? Ohio Joe Dec 2013 #14

so shame and humiliation are your prescription? Pretzel_Warrior Dec 2013 #15

oh noes... The poor oppressed men... Ohio Joe Dec 2013 #18

"Honey" (politeness etc.) only goes so far. Sometimes a person is such an egregious asshole nomorenomore08 Jan 2014 #167

It's the "tone" argument once again! boston bean Dec 2013 #16

This is a no win situation when people are intentionally mis-reading. LeftyMom just did it to me too Electric Monk Dec 2013 #20

You're using Scott Adams to make your point? cyberswede Dec 2013 #22

He must be saving Rush Limbaugh... demmiblue Dec 2013 #25

And I think the consensus was that Dilbert xulamaude Dec 2013 #23

Consensus of whom? Pretzel_Warrior Dec 2013 #24

ME ME ME!! Seriously, though, a whole lot of people - xulamaude Dec 2013 #28

This message was self-deleted by its author Electric Monk Dec 2013 #30

Omega Minimo agrees with herself. Awesome. nt Electric Monk Dec 2013 #32

Good to see that you self deleted that other post (question) which xulamaude Dec 2013 #35

Post removed Post removed Dec 2013 #36

"Dear"? Isn't that against some kind of rule too? xulamaude Dec 2013 #44

Noooooo ...... sexist terms like 'dear' are just fine. polly7 Dec 2013 #69

Do you keep a spreadsheet of every possible slight someone might have done to you on DU? boston bean Dec 2013 #70

Not at all! polly7 Dec 2013 #73

I remember things, but not specifics and can't even remember the people who did said it to me. boston bean Dec 2013 #76

Years? polly7 Dec 2013 #78

Yeah, but you did jump in to answer a question I asked of Monk... xulamaude Dec 2013 #88

Just trying to be helpful regarding the 'dear' question. polly7 Dec 2013 #94

Monk can't answer. pintobean Dec 2013 #96

"Monk can't answer"? How's that? nt xulamaude Dec 2013 #98

The hypocrisy is amazing. pintobean Dec 2013 #75

You seem to post right behind Polly7 all the time when we have a discussion. boston bean Dec 2013 #77

I was having no discussion with you. polly7 Dec 2013 #79

Well, I can remember enough to get by. I just don't waste much of my time boston bean Dec 2013 #80

Ahhh ......... well when I'm referred to with sexist terms polly7 Dec 2013 #81

Believe me, many sexist things have been said to me, over and over and over again. boston bean Dec 2013 #85

How can I make something that's not personal when it was 'me' being talked to polly7 Dec 2013 #87

I can remember somethings within a week, if my life hasn't been to hectic. boston bean Dec 2013 #95

Then why didn't 'you' straighten the poster above out polly7 Dec 2013 #126

Hang on, I'm not getting it. Please tell me which poster above we are discussing... boston bean Dec 2013 #127

This one. You should have told her it's nothing to get upset about! polly7 Dec 2013 #128

This is exactly what I said to you... boston bean Dec 2013 #129

No hypocrisy there. pintobean Dec 2013 #82

Are you in charge of when people are allowed to post? polly7 Dec 2013 #84

No, I was just making an observation. I thought that was clear. boston bean Dec 2013 #86

As was the poster you're dismissing as butting in, and whatever other polly7 Dec 2013 #90

All I did was answer him. boston bean Dec 2013 #97

What trend? polly7 Dec 2013 #102

It might have had nothing to do with you except that this is when I see him pop up boston bean Dec 2013 #103

lmfao. nt. polly7 Dec 2013 #104

me too, for REAL. I'm glad we are having some fun! boston bean Dec 2013 #105

Not nearly as much fun as it is revealing. lmao. nt. polly7 Dec 2013 #124

I think she's trying to suggest pintobean Dec 2013 #89

Thanks ........... that helps. polly7 Dec 2013 #93

Hi Polly. xulamaude Dec 2013 #71

Sure! polly7 Dec 2013 #74

Thank you. That poster does it all the time. Waiting For Everyman Dec 2013 #99

In my case, I told her from the start it bothered me, and to stop. polly7 Dec 2013 #111

Well... cyberswede Dec 2013 #37

A vocal minority Pretzel_Warrior Dec 2013 #54

This is precisely what PW meant when he wrote "gang educated" in that hidden post. Electric Monk Dec 2013 #26

Are you actually being "educated" though? xulamaude Dec 2013 #29

Thanks for linking to that thread. Pretzel_Warrior Dec 2013 #40

Here is what Scott Adams said on feminist website Pretzel_Warrior Dec 2013 #52

Link? Which feminist website? nt xulamaude Dec 2013 #56

I found a link to the very offensive piece on a feminist website etherealtruth Dec 2013 #62

Ah, yes... Thank you for that. :) xulamaude Dec 2013 #65

On MRA blogs, you say? redqueen Jan 2014 #154

What are you talking about? Pretzel_Warrior Jan 2014 #175

Scott Adams is indubitably a misogynist asshole muriel_volestrangler Dec 2013 #68

You're just jealous Matariki Dec 2013 #33

Hmm Rex Dec 2013 #39

You mean like calling LGBT rights "fabulous pink ponies"? Starry Messenger Dec 2013 #43

really?? unbelievable. boston bean Dec 2013 #66

Yes, it was what he was banned for originally on DU2. Starry Messenger Dec 2013 #72

You're absolutely right. cyberswede Dec 2013 #100

Thank goodness! Starry Messenger Dec 2013 #120

You can't "devil's advocate"* this man, and it's killing you. Sheldon Cooper Dec 2013 #47

these multiple postings of videos of guys telling other guys what they should think is just dumb loli phabay Dec 2013 #49

Someone giving an opinion does not amount to telling people what to think BainsBane Dec 2013 #51

and yet when someone gives an opinion that disagrees some feel the need to try to tell them loli phabay Dec 2013 #53

Giving opinions is what a discussion board is for. BainsBane Dec 2013 #57

lol, really. pot kettle and black springs to mind. loli phabay Dec 2013 #58

+1000 RC Dec 2013 #130

Funny. I have been afflicted with the disfiguring Glassunion Dec 2013 #60

my takeaway was blah blah blah. ymmv loli phabay Dec 2013 #61

Which is probably why you don't like the video. Glassunion Dec 2013 #63

did not dislike or like, just blah blah blah, much the same with most videos telling me how to behav loli phabay Dec 2013 #116

Sure it's dumb.. Upton Dec 2013 #117

I almost appreciate this OP in response to the other OP salin Dec 2013 #50

Huh. So he is a lot like folks here. No problem with feminism, just some feminists. The Straight Story Dec 2013 #115

Wow Egnever Jan 2014 #178

Five minutes and thirty seconds of my life I'll never get back. rrneck Dec 2013 #118

Hit a little close to home didn't he? Egalitarian Thug Dec 2013 #125

Tone argument. Iggo Dec 2013 #132

What does "dickish way" mean? Is that the same as being "vicious and militant"? countryjake Dec 2013 #140

He admits he's got daddy and mommy issues. It shows. aikoaiko Dec 2013 #145

How's that? NuclearDem Dec 2013 #148

Tone argument, pot shots at the guy delivering the message... redqueen Jan 2014 #155

Why don't you spell it out? NoOneMan Jan 2014 #159

*sigh* I should just be used to it by now. NuclearDem Jan 2014 #160

Some guys wreak of overcompensation. aikoaiko Jan 2014 #181

I'm not sure who watches these people talking into the camera things NoOneMan Jan 2014 #157

He's only talking down to the people Shankapotomus Jan 2014 #158

Message auto-removed Name removed Jan 2014 #176

Well done Egnever Jan 2014 #179

Did you even listen to the video? It says be nice and recognize men do not have to fear as women do uppityperson Jan 2014 #180

Maybe watch the damn video. NuclearDem Jan 2014 #182

That almost convinced me you were right Shankapotomus Jan 2014 #184

3088 views, 0 recs A-Schwarzenegger Jan 2014 #161

Well it is pretty obvious that you are so blindly ignorant intaglio Jan 2014 #177

lol, now who's 'perpetually outraged'? PeaceNikki Jan 2014 #183