Why is DU in a gender war anyway? [View all]

[davidn3600]

We are mainly fighting over semantics, definitions, and minor little disagreements and these threads blow up into 200+ replies and no one gets anywhere because ultimately everyone agrees more than they realize.

Everyone who is here wants equal rights, equal opportunities for everyone. No one here wants a woman to be raped and nobody here blames a victim for being raped. No one here pretends that domestic violence isn't a problem for both genders and needs attention. We all agree on these big things even though we might have some minor disagreements about the finer details.

The disagreements here are very minor but very heated. And I think a lot of people lose perspective of the bigger picture. Like I was reading an article by some right-winger that talked about how feminism is destroying society, emasculating men, and how we need to go back to the 1950s-style gender roles (written by a woman, by the way). That kind of thing is the REAL enemy and will find that stuff in many places, but not here. The type of disagreements found here by staunch feminists is nothing compared to what you would encounter on say Free Republic...or worse, an MRA site. There are no teabaggers and MRAs here. So you are preaching to the choir and picking a fight with the wrong people when you jump down anyone's throat that has even a slight disagreement or question.

A woman shouldnt be afraid to bring up discussion on an issue she feels is important. But men shouldnt be afraid to bring up an issue either. A man and woman's opinion should be treated equally.

And that's my New Year's Message...